Are you worthy?

I would like to talk about the most important element and factor to success in life: what you believe about you and your self-worth.

We get only what we believe we subconsciously deserve and no more. When we get more than we believe we deserve, we will sabotage it. And we do this in every area of our life – including finances and relationships. In the Showtime documentary, Reversal of Fortune, a homeless man was suddenly given $100,000 but he quickly squandered the money. It was as if he was trying to lose or get rid of the money. He had subconscious blocks about what he believed he deserved in life.  Do you have a friend or know of someone who when she finds herself in a relationship and is treated well, she sabotages it or tries to push the man away? Why?

She doesn’t believe she deserves to be treated well. For example, I recall one time when a woman said to me, “Why would someone with your intelligence, wit and good looks be attracted to someone like me?” She couldn’t see her own beauty. She was suffering from low self-esteem, low self-worth, and a poor self-image.

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The Secret Part 2

In this Success Newsletter, I would like to talk more about one of the key elements missing from the bestseller book and DVD, The Secret – one of the key missing elements for you to truly get what you want.  (Read last week’s newsletter “Oprah and The Secret Part 1: http://patrickwanis.com/blog/oprah-the-secret-part-1/ )

It is a paradox that “to get what you want you must also give.”  Too many people think only in terms of taking but not contributing. There is a joke that says that Hollywood people often will greet you with, “Hello, what can you do for me?”   This is the Parasitic Relationship. The other type of relationship is Symbiotic. Parasitic refers to feeding off another organism but not contributing anything in return while symbiosis refers to a mutually beneficial association of two different organisms. If we were all parasites the balance of nature would crumble. The same principle applies in every area of life. And when we only take, take, take, we are reflecting a deep subconscious belief that there is not enough, and focusing on the belief that there is not enough. 

Ironically, when we give, contribute and help other people we also gain a deep sense of fulfillment and satisfaction. In fact, every time we commit an act of kindness, our serotonin levels naturally rise. Serotonin is a chemical our brain releases that makes us feel good. Depressed people have low serotonin levels. Let me give you an example of how this principle results in getting what you want with an excerpt from my audio book, “Get What You Want”: “There is one final secret key ingredient to getting what you want, everything that you want.  And this missing piece is the guarantee that you will also be able to fully enjoy the harvest of your life, feeling deeply satisfied. Recently, I was at Planet Hollywood in Orlando. There was a letter hanging on the wall that inspired me. In January 1969, Bruce Lee wrote to himself:  

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Oprah & The Secret Part 1

I would like to talk about the bestseller book and DVD, “The Secret” and what they left out – the missing elements for you to truly get what you want.

The Secret is based around The Law of Attraction – you get more of what you focus on. The Secret teaches you to ask, visualize and receive: Decide what you want, visualize it, feel the emotions of getting it, and you’ll get it.

But is that all there is to getting what you want?

Why has The Secret worked for some people but not all?

First, you can sit down and visualize or fantasize everything you want all day long but if you take no action, then nothing will happen. So the first missing key is: Take Action!

Second: Law of Deservedness: You get only what you subconsciously believe you deserve! So, if you visualize and emotionalize what you want but subconsciously you don’t believe you deserve it, then you will either take no action or you will sabotage it when you get it. This is a key point in my audio book, “Get the man you WANT” where I explain that women who don’t subconsciously believe they deserve the best will sabotage a good relationship. Also, if you subconsciously believe that money is bad or rich people are evil, you will create blocks to becoming rich and wealthy. For example, did you know that studies show that most lottery winners lose their winnings in 2-3 years? Evelyn Adams, won the New Jersey lottery not just once, but twice (1985, 1986), to the tune of $5.4 million but today she lives in a trailer!

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