I would like to talk about depression and anger and share a success story about a client of mine who overcame eight yeares of depression and medication.   Let me begin by responding to a reader’s query regarding my last newsletter:  

What about the person that always has a smile on their face, makes other people laugh, tells positive and inspiring stories, and is eager to lend a hand or open up their home to others?   On the inside, however, this person is continuously scared to death, lonely, or grief-stricken — but never talks about it. They just don’t feel the need to bring all that negativity up in Continue reading “Overcoming depression and anger” »

I would like to talk about the components to a healthy relationship.   I teach that there are five ingredients in a healthy relationship – Love, Friendship, Companionship, Sex and Intimacy. Love refers to wanting the best for your partner. Friendship is to know the best and worst of someone and still like, accept and trust him or her. Companionship is doing Continue reading “Healthy relationships” »

I would like to talk about how to let go of guilt and shame.   Guilt and shame stem from the judgments we make about ourselves. Society, parents, friends, family or spouse may have condemned and judged us but ultimately we accepted their words as true but we also have the power to change now what we believe about ourselves.  Here are four simple steps to releasing guilt and shame: 

1. Take responsibility
2. Release the emotions Continue reading “Letting go of guilt” »

I would like to talk about removing the obstacles to your joy, success and happiness.  As a Human Behavior Expert and Clinical Hypnotherapist, I have found that one of the most powerful obstacles to experiencing love, joy and success is our focus on our own guilt and shame.  

Guilt is about something Continue reading “Removing the obstacles” »

I would like to talk about how to ask for forgiveness. This time of the year can be a painful time for many of us as we try to mend or heal a relationship particularly since there will be dinners, parties and get-togethers where we will be facing family, loved ones and people from our past. My suggestions on how to ask for forgiveness are taken from one of my books: Continue reading “Asking for forgiveness” »

I would like to talk about how to forgive from one of my books:

To forgive, one must try and gain as much possible Continue reading “How to forgive” »

I would like to talk about why we need to forgive and why it is important for our wellbeing and happiness.Forgiveness is not about the other person who may have wronged you; forgiveness is about you. There are many reasons why people refuse to forgive: 1. fear that if we do forgive we may give the person a second chance and they may hurt us again, 2. we try to control the other person or make them feel guilty -reminding them how they hurt us, 3. we play the victim role to get attention – “look at me, how people have wronged me and how much pain I am in”; 4. we use it as way to isolate ourselves and avoid commitment and intimacy – “I could never trust another man again”, 5. we believe that forgiving the other person justifies, condones or encourages their behavior.
Continue reading “Why forgive?” »