Easing Holiday stress

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to share tips and insights to ease Holiday Stress. 

First a quick update:  

·         Listen to my hour-long controversial interview with Professor Jean Twenge from San Diego State University as we discuss and debate narcissism, self-love and self-esteem http://patrickwanis.com/selflove ·         Look out this week for my list of the Top Ten Celebrity Meltdowns of 2007 along with insights and explanations at FOX News and The New York Observer ·         Next week I will have available a one-hour podcast with Annie Jennings (Annie Jennings PR) on “Overcoming fear and living the life of your dreams”·         Listen to my interview about fear on Sally Jessy Raphael’s syndicated radio show Wednesday December 5, 2007 

Now let’s talk about how to ease Holiday Stress.  

It’s quite disappointing to hear from many people that there are so many arguments around the Holidays. Ironically, most arguments happen around Thanksgiving and Christmas. 

Why? 

The Holidays automatically trigger every insecurity that we have as well as our fears, anger, frustration, resentment, bitterness, guilt, shame and any other negative emotion that we hide deep inside. The reason this occurs is because we become emotionally vulnerable when we spend time with the people closest to us – our family and when we combine that with our expectations of them and of ourselves it’s easy for the eruption to occur. In other words, all of our hurts, fears and failures are triggered by our family members. While our initial reaction is to blame them, please understand that all they succeed in doing is triggering what is already inside of us. That means we can’t blame other people for the way we chose to respond to them and their behavior. 

There are things we can do to avoid arguments, outburst and future hurts and regrets. Here are four of my top nine tips to ease Holiday stress and avoid arguments and fights.

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Giving thanks

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to talk about the power of gratitude. 

First a quick update:  

**** Listen to my controversial radio interview with Danny Wright –Wright all Night about Oprah and the attack on free expression at http://patrickwanis.com/RadioInterviews.asp and soon Danny and I will be presenting a series about How to Ease Holiday Stress

**** Ellen DeGeneres,  Ashley Olsen et al -read my perspectives on celebrity behavior in The New York Observer http://www.observer.com/2007/expert-ellen#comment-126528

**** Read my new article “The Secret to get what you truly deserve” for Date.com and Matchmaker.com’s weekly newsletter http://www.date.info ·         Look for me in the December issue of Cosmopolitan magazine 

Now let’s talk about the power of gratitude.  

The dictionary defines being grateful as “warmly or deeply appreciative of kindness or benefits received; thankful, pleasing to the mind or senses; agreeable or welcome; refreshing.” 

One of the points easily missed here is that gratitude is for things received. One of the key reasons most of us find it so difficult to express thanks for what we have is because we are often in an emotional state of entitlement and we forget that we do not truly have a right to anything. In other words, many of us feel the world owes us something and when we view life from that point of view, we end up miserable because we will always be focusing on what we don’t have and we will never have an appreciation for what we presently do have.   Continue reading “Giving thanks – the power of gratitude” »

How fear controls you

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to talk about fear and how it controls you. 

First a quick update:  

·         George Clooney & Fabio, Heath Ledger, Rihana & Josh Hartnett, Matthew Perry & Mandy Moore, Paul McCartney -read my perspectives on celebrity behavior in The New York Observer http://www.observer.com/2007/experts ·         Read my new article “The emotional stresses of being overweight” for Date.com and Matchmaker.com’s weekly newsletter http://www.date.info

·         John Devore & Diana Falzone on Maxim Radio invite me back to reveal more secrets of seduction and insights into the female brain and how to use them to win over women. I test those techniques on Diana and she blushes and concedes…Listen here http://patrickwanis.com/RadioInterviews.asp·         Look for me in the December issue of Cosmopolitan magazine 

Now let’s talk about fear and how it controls us.  

Fear is the anticipation of pain, and is always set in the future. We fear that something bad or painful will or might happen. Fear does not exist. Yes, it feels real but it is the consequence of a thought. It is not tangible. Fear does not exist outside of our head.  

The following is an excerpt from my book “How to Find Happiness” © 2003 where I sit down to answer questions posed to me by Angela Badolato http://patrickwanis.com/HappinessBook.asp 

-Doesn’t fear drive us and makes us more alert? 

That is a common misconception. I have proven many times that a person in a relaxed hypnotic state is actually more alert and aware than a person in a state of fear. Under hypnosis a person’s senses are heightened, able to clearly hear noises from a distance and even sense movement in the room with eyes closed.  Continue reading “How fear controls you” »

Why aren’t you perfect?

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to talk about false images and expectations of perfection. 

First a quick update:  

·         Read my predictions in The New York Observer about the new relationship between Lance Armstrong and Ashley Olsen http://www.observer.com/2007/expert-weighs-lance-and-ashley·         Read my new article for Date.com and Matchmaker.com’s weekly newsletter http://www.date.info ·         Listen to the strongest teleseminar I have ever presented: “The Secret to Get What You Truly Deserve” http://www.patrickwanis.com/TheSecret_GWYTD ·         Look for me in the December issue of Cosmopolitan magazine 

Now let’s talk about false images and expectations: “Why aren’t you perfect?” 

As a Human Behavior Expert and a Clinical Hypnotherapist, I have learned that one of the most destructive human patterns is our creation of false images and expectations of other people, usually our partners and our parents. I have found that at a subconscious level we wanted them and continue to want them to be better, do better and have more. In other words, we expected them and often still expect them to be perfect. We also tend to have the same expectations of our romantic partners and even ourselves.

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