Archive for October, 2009

Beware of gurus – and the danger of cults

Wednesday, October 28th, 2009
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Self-help guru James Arthur Ray was sentenced to two years in prison after being found guilty of three counts of negligent homicide.

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like discuss the controversial three deaths at a sweat lodge & spiritual retreat and the dangers of gurus and becoming drawn into cults.

 

 

First a quick update:

 

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**** Beware of Gurus – the interview: Read the full transcript of the hour-long interview I gave to Jim Peake of MySucccessGateway.com about the three deaths at New Age Guru James Ray’s spiritual retreat and the dangers of gurus and cults. Click here to read the transcript: http://patrickwanis.com/blog/beware-of-gurus-the-interview/  and click here to listen to the interview: http://patrickwanis.com/Beware_of_Gurus.asp

 

 

Now, let’s talk about the danger of gurus.

 

Recently, one of the featured teachers on “The Secret”, New Age Guru, James Arthur Ray, held a “Spiritual Warrior” retreat in which three people died and eighteen others were injured after participating in a sweat lodge. It’s been reported that the participants fasted for 36 hours and then had a breakfast buffet on the day of the sweat lodge. James Ray is now facing possible homicide charges.

 

This horrific tragedy has created a huge backlash against many of the self-help experts and gurus.

 

Jennifer, wrote on my blog that this tragedy “made me question myself and everything around me…He [James Ray] was also one of the first people to inspire me to “change” for the better the things in my life I’m not satisfied with (as were you)…He [Dave Lakhani] criticized James Arthur Ray and accused him of “cult tactics” plus accused the Law of Attraction as being nothing more than a “cult” belief…I don’t know if “believing” is enough anymore to turn my life around. For years, I’ve been trying to motivate myself to start a business. I’ve had tons of “false starts” and now I’m wondering if they weren’t really so “false”. Maybe it’s not for me. Maybe I should just accept that those things are not possible for someone like me. After all, I don’t come from an entrepreneurial family, nor a rich one. We’ve never been more than just workers. Maybe I’m believing something out of my league…I don’t know anymore. The tragedy, Dave Lakhani’s criticism of James Arthur Ray and the whole Law of Attraction movement in general have really devastated my faith in myself and my desire to “change” my life for the better. Maybe there is no “better”…Patrick…please respond…”

 

In the detailed interview that I gave to Jim Peake, I explained that I have participated in Sweat Lodges before – a Native American tradition and ritual that has been around for hundreds of years – and based on the reports thus far, it appears that James Ray made five serious mistakes in the execution of the sweat lodge. I reveal them in the interview.

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Beware of gurus – the interview

Saturday, October 24th, 2009

Beware of gurus - the interview

Jim Peake.
Beware of gurus – the interview

The following is a transcript of an interview between Jim Peake of MySuccessGateway.com and Celebrity Life Coach and Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis Ph.D. about the Sweat Lodge deaths of three people at James Arthur Ray’s “Spiritual Warrior” event in Sedona, Arizona. James Ray is a New Age guru, self-help expert and one of the teachers featured in the hit movie “The Secret”

 

To listen to the audio interview, click here.

 

 

Jim: This is Jim Peake at MySuccessGateway.com and today I’ve got a fantastic podcast call with Mr. Patrick Wanis, Celebrity Life Coach and Human Behavior Expert, PhD. And you can find him at patrickwanis.com. And it’s spelled Patrick W-A-N-I-S dot com. Welcome Patrick.

 

Patrick: Thanks Jim.

 

Jim:     This is the call about the Sweat Lodge tragedy down in Sedona, AZ and James Ray had an event down there and apparently there were a few things that went wrong, terribly wrong, and it cost some people their lives.

 

Patrick: Well, there are so many points to this story, Jim. Let’s just give everyone listening to this call a sort of a synopsis of the story. James Arthur Ray is recognized as a self-help guru, a spiritual guru, a new-age guru, a self-help expert. He was one of the featured presenters in the movie The Secret and you’ll recall he’s also been on Oprah twice. She promoted The Secret and she promoted James Ray and a couple of other people. James Ray’s been around for a long time. He also is a published author. He holds some retreats. The retreat that he held was known as “Spiritual Warrior” Camp and it’s done over four or five days and people that attend this pay almost $10,000 to be part of this. If you read the actual publicity that he writes about this it’s like, “I’m going to reveal to you secrets that no one else knows. I’m the only one that has this. I’ve spent years trying to find this. I’ve traveled to Peru. I did this, etc, etc.”  So he builds himself up as having a very special message and he says, “Look, don’t worry about how much you’re investing because you’re going to make so much money so easily and so effortlessly.”  Okay. The spiritual retreat that he engages in, he calls it Spiritual Warrior, included fasting for 36 hours in the desert. Now the reports say that it also included not drinking water. Now, I’m not sure how that’s possible and remember not every detail that we’re discussing today has been verified. But, the people that did this fasted for 36 hours. Then on the morning of the Sweat lodge they go ahead and have a breakfast buffet. I have done sweat lodges Jim. I’ve done two of them. And I never saw anyone get sick and I never saw any injuries and I never saw any tragedies.

 

Jim:     Yeah, I’ve done two of them as well so I’ve never seen that either.

 

Patrick:           Now, here’s the point. Continue reading “Beware of gurus – the interview” »

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What you really need

Wednesday, October 21st, 2009
What you really need

What do you really need?

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like reveal our real physical, mental and emotional needs.

 

First a quick update:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Now, let’s talk about what you really need.

 

In the 1980s, Australian rock band, INXS, had a big hit with a song “What you need”:

 

Don’t you get sad and lonely
You need a change from what you do all day
Ain’t no sense in all your crying
Just pick it up and throw it into shape, ooh yeah

That’s why
You need
Ooh that’s why,
This is what you need, I’ll give you what you need

 

Of course, INXS was referring to love, romantic love, fun and escape. And as I reveal in my book, “Soul Mates”, love is one of our primary needs:  

 

“In his book The Science of Love, Anthony Walsh defines love as “that which satisfies our need to receive and bestow affection and nurturing; to give and be given assurances of value, respect, acceptance and appreciation; and to feel secure in our unity with, and belonging to, a particular, family.”

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Teens burn boy – psychopaths & violent behavior

Tuesday, October 20th, 2009
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Teens burn boy – psychopaths & violent behavior – Ted Bundy confessed to murdering 30 people.

The following is a transcript of an interview between Russ Morley, host of 850 WFTL radio and Celebrity Life Coach and Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis Ph.D. about the five Florida teens who allegedly doused a 15-year-old boy with rubbing alcohol and set him on fire as an act of revenge. The teen was set on fire over a $40 video game. Police said, “I’ll be honest, a couple of them were laughing about it last night. [Only] one of them seemed genuinely sorry for what he did,”

 

 

 

Good Morning on the WFTL Morning News. Now here’s your host, Russ Morley.

 

(Quotes from various speakers)

 

“The victim’s gonna carry a lifelong scars if he survives. It’s just a horrible, horrible case. “

 

“Michael Brewer reported somebody for stealing his dad’s bike. That’s what this comes down to. It’s retaliation”. 

 

“Nearly two-thirds of his body is burned in mixed second and third-degree burns”. 

 

“They have good grades, no problems in school.  Wrong place, wrong people”.

 

 “The State Attorney’s office will make a decision whether to keep the case in juvenile court or whether to transfer to the adult system.”

 

 “It’s almost a cliché to say, you know, that this crime has shocked the community but in this case it really is true.”

 

Russ Morley:

 

Sherriff Allen Burty, before that Corey Hill public defender, Sharon Jarvis’ mother and 15-year-old Michael Brewer’s mom. Michael Brewer, 15 years of age, is being treated this morning at Jackson Memorial Hospital’s Burn Unit in Miami.  Two-thirds of his body burned.  BSO say 5 boys surrounded him Monday afternoon outside a Deerfield Beach Apartment Complex, splashed him with rubbing alcohol, and then set him a fire. The boys have been charged with aggravated assault.  One of them was also charged with attempted second-degree murder.  He is the one that actually torched Michael.  What kind of disconnect would teenagers have to have to be able to do something like this?  Joining us this morning is Celebrity Life Coach and Human Behavior Expert, Dr. Patrick Wanis, out of Miami this morning.  Dr. Wanis, good morning.

 

Patrick Wanis:  Good morning, Russ.

 

Russ:   All right.  Yesterday, we were talking and you were mentioning two words, sociopath and psychopath. Which are applicable here?

 

Patrick: Well, unfortunately, sometimes the terms become interchanged but let me talk about common characteristics because some people believe that to become a sociopath means learned behavior where a psychopathic behavior maybe the result of a neurological dysfunction.  But they are also intertwined.  Those two words also interchanged with antisocial disorder.  But the symptoms or the behavioral symptoms are deep-seated rage, impulsiveness, lack of remorse, lack of guilt or shame, the incapacity to love, superficial charm, fake or shallow emotions, extreme narcissism, promiscuity, pathological lying, a lack of empathy (that’s inability to empathize with the pain of victim as was exemplified by the reaction of some of these kids), blaming others, secretiveness, paranoia, manipulative and swindling behavior.  Now, I know that’s very, very broad but basically what it comes down to is the inability to feel the pain of someone else.  Sometimes it includes violent behavior, violent action, and often just extreme antisocial behavior.

 

Russ:   That’s a lot to build up in a short period of time. The oldest was 19, the youngest was being 13 in this group of 5.  How does that happen at that age? I mean how do you build up all that rage, all the traits you just described?

 

Patrick: Well, there’s two things.  First we need to understand that the human brain does not fully develop until the second decade – that means until your 20s.  So, until the human brain is fully developed, we don’t have a 100% capacity and ability to know, to be able to differentiate between right and wrong as well as the full ability to express empathy and make judgment.  Having said that, let me share a story with you.

 

Russ:   Okay.

 

Patrick: Henry Lee Lucas was born in Blacksburg, Virginia.  At 10 years of age, he watched his mother’s live-in boyfriend stab a calf in the neck and have sex with it while it was dying.  At age 13, that means 3 years later.

 

Russ:   You said calf, right?

 

Patrick: Yeah, calf.

 

Russ:   The Australian accent throws me off sometimes.

 

Patrick: Sorry about that.

 

Russ:   Calf, okay.

 

Patrick: So, 3 years later, Henry Lee Lucas, age 13, begins catching small animals and skinning them alive for fun.  After stabbing, mutilating, and murdering women for over 30 years, at age 47 Lucas is now serving a life sentence in prison.  The point being here that a child learns by copying what his or her parents do. But there are also other elements here – where are the parents here?  You know, I would take a very good guess to say that, in my opinion, most likely, the father of each of these kid’s lives is not involved in their lives. He’s not around; he doesn’t know what they are doing; he doesn’t have a good healthy relationship with them; he’s not teaching them manhood as well as whatever other problems they have at home that lead to deep-seated anger, deep-seated rage but then gets expressed onto other people. And unless each father takes hold of his boy, his son and guides him and takes him from being a kid into manhood, then these sort of behaviors will occur, and I don’t mean that every kids is going to naturally be cruel and burn someone almost to the point of death.  But the whole challenge here we have is that fathers are not playing the role of fathers.  They’re not teaching their kids about right and wrong.  They’re not teaching them how to get in touch with their own anger or how to get in touch with their maturation and evolution.  And then we have the dangerous problem in society that both parents are often too busy with their own lives and too busy getting caught up in the pursuit of materialism, wanting bigger cars, bigger houses, you know, more, more  more, trying to hold down two or three jobs.  Thus, they’re not even connecting with their children, so they have no relationship with their kids.  That’s why you see so much violence and so much anger in kids at such a young age throughout the entire country.

 

Russ:   The gang leader, it seems to be, is 19 in this group, the other ones are 15, 13, another 15-year-old, a 16, and a 15-year-old.  So at this point in time, can you rehab these kids? Can you get them into counseling? Can you turn them around or they just lock them up and throw away the key?

 

Patrick: Without speaking to each one individually, I’m of the personal opinion that you can always help someone if they want to change.  Age 13 is still very young, age 15 is still very young.  But also take a look at these kids. The authorities haven’t told you the full story. A lot of these kids have juvenile records that have been sealed which means they have been in a lot of trouble before, so no one has intervened to help them. Is it too late? I don’t think it’s too late.

 

Russ:   All right.  How do you feel personally being a counselor and behavioral expert about these kids being tried as adult?  Should a 13-year-old be tried as an adult in a case like this?

 

Patrick: You know that’s not 100% my expertise but here’s what I would say to that.  I’d say that age 15 is too young to be tried as an adult.  The law says that at age 14 for certain serious crimes, you can be tried as an adult.  But the brain hasn’t fully developed. The brain hasn’t fully developed, especially a boy’s brain, until they are early to mid 20s. Girls develop faster. So these kids haven’t even fully developed and I don’t know if that’s the right way to go about it because what’s going to basically happen is the will end up in an adult system, they are going to end up in an adult prison where they are just going to be exposed to other crimes, to other adult criminals who are going to teach them more of the same bad, wrong things rather than helping them to get on the right path.

 

Russ:   Celebrity Life Coach and Human Behavior Expert, Dr. Patrick Wanis.  We are gonna get some more tips from Patrick and there’s always great writings on his website at PatrickWanis.com.  W-A-N-I-S.

 

Patrick: Yes, and on my radio interview’s page, I have many, many interviews and podcasts discussing sociopathic and psychopathic behavior.

 

Russ:   PatrickWanis.com, News talk 850 WFTL.  8:19 is our time today.  90’s going to be your high on this Thursday, October 15.

 

 

 

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Conquering depression

Wednesday, October 14th, 2009
Conquering depression

Conquering depression

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like share insights into depression and how to conquer it.

 

First a quick update:

 

 

 

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Now, let’s talk about depression, what it is and ways to treat it.

 

Let’s begin with some statistics about depression.

 

 

·         Major depression affects approximately 15 million people over age 18 in the US each year

 

·         Women experience depression twice as often as men

 

·         There is higher rate of depression in married women versus single women and many have depression at child birth

 

·         On an average out of 3 depressed women, only one will seek professional help

 

·         One in seven men will develop depression within 6 months of becoming unemployed

 

·         Main reasons of depression in men are separation after marriage, widowed, divorce

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David Letterman, cheating & power

Wednesday, October 7th, 2009
David Letterman cheating and power

David Letterman, cheating & power

The following is a transcript of an interview between Russ Morley, host of 850 WFTL radio and Celebrity Life Coach and Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis Ph.D. about David Letterman admitting that he had sex with various female workers from his show.

 

 

David Letterman:

The creepy stuff was that I have/had sex with women who work for me on the show.  Now, my response to that is, “Yes, I have.”  And would it be embarrassing if it were made public?  Perhaps it would.  Perhaps it would.  Especially for the women.  But that’s a decision for them to make, if they want to come public and talk about their relationships, if I want to go public and talk about the relationships.  But what you don’t want is a guy saying, “Oh, I know you had sex with women,” saying, “I would like $2 million or I’m going to make trouble for you.”  So that’s where we stand right now. 

 

Russ:              I don’t know if it’s a shocking announcement or not.  David Letterman admitting the fact that he had sex with a bunch of, a number of women, in his what looks to be his office at work, the women he worked with on The David Letterman Show, his Worldwide Pants Organization.  He produces his own show out there and this seems to be the year of the cheater, that’s for sure. Are we becoming so morally bankrupt we just don’t care anymore, we’re not surprised anymore? Joining us this morning is Dr. Patrick Wanis, he’s a celebrity life coach and human behavior expert out of Miami. 

                        Dr. Wanis, good morning.

 

Dr. Patrick Wanis: 

Good morning, Russ. 

 

Russ:              All right, first take on the David Letterman story, and I guess the whole thing that amazes me the most is the forgiveness we’ve issued to him already. 

 

Dr. Wanis:   Well, there are many reasons. First and foremost, he’s not an elected official so we have a different expectation of David Letterman. 

                        Number two, he’s an entertainer.  So he’s there to entertain, he’s there to make us laugh. 

                        Number three, he’s been in our homes for a long, long time so, you know, we have a different kind of connection, a different kind of bond, a different kind of relationship with him. 

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You’ll never measure up

Wednesday, October 7th, 2009
You will never measure up

You will never measure up

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like discuss the horrible impact of the media’s toxic messages about idealized beauty and physical perfection.

 

First a quick update:

  

 

 

  • Letterman, power, opportunity & cheating: Read the transcript of the radio interview I gave about David Letterman, and, the judge accused of having sex with male inmates in exchange for leniency. Read more at my blog: www.patrickwanis.com/blog

  

 

Now, let’s talk about the media’s obsession with physical perfection and beauty, and, its dangerous impact on you and children.

 

This week, Time magazine reported that France is considering putting warning labels on retouched photos. Many Western countries already have health warnings on tobacco and alcoholic products as well as some genetically modified food products, but this new push by a politician in France is designed to protect people’s mental and emotional health.

 

French conservative parliamentarian Valérie Boyer is proposing legislation that would make it illegal to publicly distribute doctored photos without the warning “Photograph retouched to modify the physical appearance of a person.” A violation would result in a fine of $55,000.

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Anti-depressants cause deaths, suicides and murder Pt 3

Tuesday, October 6th, 2009
Anti depressants cause deaths suicides and murder Pt 3

Anti-depressants cause deaths, suicides and murder Pt 3

Below is Part Three of the transcript of a lengthy interview and discussion between Dr. Peter Breggin, author of “Medication Madness – a psychiatrist exposes the dangers of mood-altering medications” and Patrick Wanis Ph.D.

Click here to read Part One of the interview

Click here to read Part Two

Click here to listen to the complete interview

 

 

 

Patrick:           Well – and I know that you’re happily married and you have a lot of satisfaction and fulfillment within your relationship which makes you a great role model for a lot of people. But I’m curious about some of the cases, because, right at the beginning, I even used the terms lobotomy and psychosurgery. And I thought to myself, you know, we’ve bandied around the word lobotomy for many years. But was there a time in medicine when they actually removed parts of the brain or here in America did surgery do so in the hope of changing the way you think and feel?

 

 

Peter:              Well, it’s – first of all, it still goes on. I’ll give you a brief history and in 1936, a Portuguese surgeon started cutting up – actually he poisoned – he put holes in the brains of mental patients in the state’s mental hospital and poured poison in. Continue reading “Anti-depressants cause deaths, suicides and murder Pt 3” »

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