In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal the secret to letting go the past year and creating a powerful New Year.
First a quick update:
**** Miami –South Florida residents – Tonight (7-9 PM, Wednesday December 29, I am presenting “New Year, New You” at The Standard Miami. As a special gift from me to you, if you email Elena, you will get a complimentary pass to the Spa facilities for the day when you come to my program tonight; act fast – email epezzo at standardmiami.com
**** The Top 10 Celebrity Meltdowns of 2010 – Read my full article featuring my fourth annual list of The Top Ten Celebrity Meltdowns of 2010 along with my expert insights and analysis into the motivation behind the behaviors. http://patrickwanis.com/blog/2010/12/27/the-top-10-celebrity-meltdowns-of-2010-2/
Now, let’s talk about how to let go of the past year and transform the New Year.
As the end of the year arrives, it is natural to feel overwhelmed by a vast array of emotions. Clients have expressed various sentiments to me such as feeling rundown, tired and stressed out because they have been so busy preparing for the festivities; others complained that they are fatigued because they have not taken a real holiday in a very long time; one client expressed excitement for the new year and hopefully a fresh start while yet another new client expressed sadness, regret and shame for the way that this year has turned out for her.
As you look back on this year, what do you feel? How do you view and perceive the past twelve months? Do you feel you achieved what you wanted or do you feel like you failed? It is okay to feel whatever you feel; the danger is if you stay stuck in a negative emotion.
While there will always be regrets for some of our actions or inactions, the key is to learn from those mistakes or behavior, make amends if necessary and focus on new behavior and new strategies. We place such great expectations upon ourselves and others around us and thus, we need to be wary of making harsh judgments about ourselves and others; harsh judgments serve no positive purpose and only create more pain and more negative emotions. If you feel you did something that you now wish you had not, instead of beating yourself up, use the phrase “next time” as a reminder to act differently in the future.
Please understand also that the end of the year is a time of extremely high stress for most people (shopping, parties, family dinners and get-togethers, financial challenges, unmet expectations, loneliness, tense relationships, etc.) Further, we continue to live in times of uncertainty, and even the extreme weather around the world, has placed a lot of additional pressure on many people. Dealing with blizzards, mudslides and floods takes its toll – physically, mentally, financially and emotionally.
Here is a process to let go of the past year and transform the New Year: