In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to discuss the fear to forgive.
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Now, let’s talk about the fear of forgiveness.
I am writing this newsletter from Australia where I am taping a couple of TV shows and visiting family.
It was Sunday afternoon. And feeling like I needed a mental break, I decided to seek out sunlight, fresh air and wide open spaces.
I headed to the beach and was enjoying a walk on the pier at Seaford. I was taking a photo of the sun glimmering on the water when a lady stopped and said, “Your photo won’t work because you are shooting into the sun.”
‘That’s okay. I am shooting down into the water’ I responded.
From there, a conversation began and knowing that I was based in the US, she mentioned her interest in Cesar Millan the “Dog Whisperer” and asked me if I believed in his work and TV show.
‘Yes. Cesar has great success because he helps the dog owners transform and teaches them that their dog is responding to their emotions. If the owners are anxious, nervous and out of control, so too, is the dog.’
“My first dog used to speak to me almost like a human. I mean, he would grunt and turn his head away” she said.
‘So like you, he too, had a dominant personality’, I said smiling
She tried to deny it but then admitted she was testing me to see how accurately I could read her.
“What job do you think I used to do?”
Without knowing anything else about her, I said ‘I see you working with children or as a nurse with children, caring, nurturing and protecting them.’
Wanting to further test me, she denied it and then eventually admitted that she had been a teacher for over 35 years and gave special attention to troubled children and battled the educational system to teach her way.
“What else to you read about me?”
‘You are angry and you don’t trust anyone and that’s why you became dominant – to protect yourself and to protect children.’
“Well, you have to. You either sink or swim!”
She opened up and told me of her hatred for men because she had been abused by her father and her husband.