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Jim Morrison thoughts on freedom – Lizzie James interview

Wednesday, April 16th, 2014
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Jim Morrison – thoughts on freedom in the Lizzie James interview

 

The article “Jim Morrison: Ten Years Gone” was originally published in article form with commentary by Ms. Lizzie James in the 1981 CREEM Magazine Special Edition devoted to the Doors on the tenth anniversary of Jim Morrison’s passing. This is an unedited portion of the interview, this section of the piece is uncorrected, the original being unavailable. Parts of this interview were also published in The Doors Illustrated History. The interview was originally recorded in 1969.

 

From: http://archives.waiting-forthe-sun.net/Pages/Interviews/JimInterviews/TenYearsGone.html

 

 

 

Lizzie:            I think fans of The Doors see you as a savior, the leader who’ll set them all free. How do you feel about that?

 

Jim:       It’s absurd. How can I set free anyone who doesn’t have the guts to stand up alone and declare his own freedom? I think it’s a lie – people claim they want to be free – everybody insists that freedom is what they want the most, the most sacred and precious thing a man can possess. But that’s bullshit! People are terrified to be set free – they hold on to their chains. They fight anyone who tries to break those chains. It’s their security… How can they expect me or anyone else to set them free if they don’t really want to be free?

 

Lizzie:            Why do you think people fear freedom?

 

Jim:       I think people resist freedom because they’re afraid of the unknown. But it’s ironic… That unknown was once very well known. It’s where our souls belong…The only solution is to confront them – confront yourself – with the greatest fear imaginable. Expose yourself to your deepest fear. After that, fear has no power, and fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.

 

Lizzie:            What do you mean when you say “freedom”?

 

Jim:       There are different kinds of freedom – there’s a lot of misunderstanding….The most important kind of freedom is to be what you really are. You trade in your reality for a role. You trade in your senses for an act. You give up your ability to feel, and in exchange, put on a mask. There can’t be any large scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first. ….You can take away a man’s political freedom and you won’t hurt him – unless you take away his freedom to feel. That can destroy him.

 

Lizzie:            But how can anyone else have the power to take away from your freedom to feel?

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The Science of Getting Rich – free download

Friday, March 15th, 2013
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“The Science of Getting Rich” By Wallace Wattles first published in 1910. See below for your free copy download

“Your thoughts create your reality.”

 

Who is the first person to teach this?

 

You have probably heard of or read the book or watched the movie by Rhonda Byrne “The Secret”:

 

“Everything is possible, nothing is impossible. There are no limits. Whatever you can dream of can be yours, when you use The Secret.”

 

The Secret’s message, “Law of Attraction”, is that your thoughts and visualizations create your reality and that when you change your thoughts and the pictures in your mind, you can change your world and, of course, become rich, “acquiring massive wealth.”

 

Is this teaching new?

 

No.

 

“Unlimited Power”, published in 1987, by Tony Robbins proposes the same principles and is very similar to Dr. Joseph Murphy’s book “The Power of Your Subconscious Mind” published in 1963.

 

Three years prior, in 1960, “Psycho-Cybernetics: A New Way to Get More Living out of Life” by Dr. Maxwell Maltz was published. Dr. Maltz also taught that one must visualize one’s goals and and must possess a healthy self-image.

 

But almost 3 decades earlier, another author wrote about the power of thoughts

 

Author Napoleon Hill in his most famous work, “Think and Grow Rich” (1937), one of the best-selling books of all time examined the power of personal beliefs, and the role they play in personal success. His teaching: “What the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve” became one of the hallmarks of the personal development and self-help fields.

 

But again, was Napoleon Hill the first to teach this?

 

No!

 

In fact, all of these teachings about the power to change your reality by changing your thoughts (by believing it as possible) can be traced back to Jesus who said:

 

“Whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.” - Mark 11:24

 

 

“Everything that you will ask in prayer and believe, you will receive.” – Matthew 21:22

 

Nonetheless, who is the first person in modern times to teach the power of your thoughts – your faith and beliefs?

 

Wallace Wattles – an American author and a New Thought writer.

 

In his book, “The Science of Getting Rich”, (published in 1910), Wattles explains how to become wealthy. This book is the first modern publication in the self-help movement and to which almost all other such books trace their origins.

 

THOUGHT IS THE ONLY POWER WHICH CAN PRODUCE TANGIBLE RICHES” wrote Wallace Wattles – in 1910!

 

Here is your free copy to download right now. Click here:  The Science of Getting Rich – free download 

 

 

 

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Gender differences in parenting styles – moms Vs dads

Friday, March 8th, 2013
Gender differences in parenting styles - moms Vs dads

Gender differences in parenting styles – moms Vs dads

The following is part 3 of a transcript of an interview between Patrick Wanis, Human Behavior and Relationship Expert, PhD and Dr. Vicki Panaccione, child psychologist and Founder and Director of the Better Parenting Institute discussing a study that reveals that teenage children would choose fame over greater intelligence, beauty or physical strength. Patrick Wanis and Dr. Vicki also explore parenting styles and Dr. Vicki answers the question “Can children be divine without being narcissistic?” by revealing 4 strategies to raising children with healthy self-esteem. For previous part of this transcript (Part 2), click here: http://patrickwanis.com/blog/praising-children-without-creating-entitled-princes-princesses/  

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Patrick:                      You’ve raised many great points Dr. Vicki, one of which is the most important, is that you have to be a great role model. If you’re making good choices, it’s much easier for your child to make similarly good choices.

 

One final point before wrapping up today, there is a difference in the way that a mother is a parent and the way that a father is a parent.

 

 

The mother tends to offer much more nurturing, much more empathy, much more sympathy, much more compassion. She helps the child develop a lot of the depth of emotion. However, the father, being generally more masculine, tends to bring a lot more structure, maybe clearer focus, and of course his focus is more on rationality – on cause and effect.

 

I’m trying carefully not to be sexist or be polarizing or stereotypical, but generally there is a difference in the way that a mother and father raise a child. The father tends to be a lot stricter and the mother tends to be maybe more aware of the emotions of the child. How do you connect these two with what we’re talking about?

 

Number one, about the ability to choose and number two, that teaching children is very important because fathers sometimes will say, “You’re just playing games with me. I don’t care about your stories or your emotions. Just get in the room and clean up the room. Go and do it.”

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Why women seek out fairytale endings and “Happily Ever After”

Monday, March 4th, 2013
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Why do women seek out fairytale endings and “Happily Ever After”?

Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis PhD, answers questions about why women seek out fairytale endings and “Happily Ever After”

 

 

  • Q. WHY WE DO WOMEN LOVE THE IDEA OF A “HAPPILY EVER AFTER”?

 

Patrick Wanis PhD: The concept of “Happily Ever After” appeals strongly to women for two reasons:

1. It satisfies one of women’s primary needs and desires – security. Women will often marry or commit to a relationship first for security and second for love or romance. This is another reason why rich and powerful men are so attractive to women – they offer the perception of security.

2. It meets a woman’s definition of joy – happy and fulfilled relationships. Women measure their happiness and self-esteem based on the quality of their relationships. And when a woman’s relationships are in tatters, she will quickly and easily feel that her world is out of control and can easily become depressed.

 

  • Q. WHY DOES IT SEEM TO BE WOMEN WHO HOPE FOR THE FAIRYTALE ENDING AND NOT MEN?

 

Patrick Wanis PhD: Women primarily seek security and fulfilling relationships as a measure of happiness while men define happiness and personal success based on the results they produce (the empire & wealth they build – be it a house, car, business or money amassed.) However, fantasy appeals to women much more than men who are driven by ‘cause and effect.’ In other words, men are more logically driven and women are more emotionally driven; not right or wrong, it’s simply the way it is. Women are also raised and reared from the early years in dreams, fantasies and hope (dress-up, role-playing games.) Parents, particularly mothers support, encourage and inspire the imagination of their daughters; many girls are still reared today to dream and fantasize about ‘their day’ – the wedding – even more than marriage or the relationship. Young girls are also programmed by their mothers to think about the man they wish to catch. On the other hand, boys, are encouraged to focus on measurable and tangible goals around producing results – football and other sports. Thus, their fantasies are based on achievable goals and which come with immediate disappointments or triumphs (loss or victory.) As boys grow up, they also tend to become more accustomed to rejection than girls since they are the hunters and they don’t always win the chase. Men do, though, play a role in the fairytale ending, since they focus on building the castle and women focus on becoming the princess rescued by the prince or knight in shining armor.

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Praising children without creating entitled princes and princesses

Tuesday, February 26th, 2013
Praising children without creating entitled princes and princesses

Praising children without creating entitled princes and princesses. “So you equated telling my child that she’s amazing and beautiful and wonderful and that she’ll be thinking she’s a princess, and I’m saying that doesn’t have to happen” – Dr. Vicki Panaccione, child psychologist

 The following is part 2 of a transcript of an interview between Patrick Wanis, Human Behavior and Relationship Expert, PhD and Dr. Vicki Panaccione, child psychologist and Founder and Director of the Better Parenting Institute  www.betterparentinginstitute.com discussing a study that reveals that teenage children would choose fame over greater intelligence, beauty or physical strength. Patrick Wanis and Dr. Vicki also explore parenting styles and Dr. Vicki answers the question “Can children be divine without being narcissistic?” by revealing 4 strategies to raising children with healthy self-esteem. For previous part of this transcript (Part 1), click here: http://patrickwanis.com/blog/celebrating-childs-existence-making-her-entitled-narcissistic/

 

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Patrick:                      Okay. Now we recognize that as adults. We say the children are Divine, they’re special. They bring a beautiful gift to the world, but how do we balance that? How do we relay that to the child so the child therefore respects him or herself, but also respects other people and recognizes “I’m not just a princess and I’m not naturally entitled to everything in the world; I have to do something; I have to contribute something; I have to realize my full potential.”

 

Dr. Vicki:                   Ah! So you equated telling my child that she’s amazing and beautiful and wonderful and that she’ll be thinking she’s a princess, and I’m saying that doesn’t have to happen.

 

Patrick:                      So how do we make sure that doesn’t happen? How do we do that?

 

Dr. Vicki:                   We do that first of all by having requirements of our children, behavioral requirements and so on. It’s not okay to break the rules. It’s not okay to disobey mommy. It’s not okay, whatever, and there are limits that we place on them and requirements and expectations that we teach our children to rise to.

 

For instance, there’s a difference between valuing who the person is and valuing what they do. In many cases, kids only feel they’re okay when they’re bringing the A home or making that touchdown, looking really pretty. It’s things that they’re doing, but I also want them to feel good about the fact that just because they’re in this world, they’re valuable and they don’t need to do anything to be valued and respected. That’s not the same as contributing.

 

So I can think that this child is wonderful and I can affirm that by saying affirmations to my child, “I’m so glad to be your mom. You bring such joy to my life,” things like that. Those are affirmations. He doesn’t have to do anything; he just is. Their smile lights up the room. He’s not accomplishing. I’m not rewarding him for behavior. I’m just giving him feedback about the magnificent person he is.

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Why men see prostitutes & run from women's emotions

Sunday, February 17th, 2013
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Why do married and single men see prostitutes? Is it simply an attempt to deliberately avoid womens emotions?

Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis PhD, answers questions about why married and single men seek out prostitutes.

 

Q. Married men who seek out prostitutes often say it’s for the thrill of it: they enjoy the risk. While it seems obvious that most ‘rational’ men would weigh up the dangers and decide not to go through with it, what is it that makes certain people more prone to taking risks?

 

Patrick Wanis PhD: Prostitution appeals to some men because it is illicit, because the risk makes it more exciting. Whenever society chooses to create something as a taboo, that taboo behavior becomes much more appealing and exciting.

 

Note that it is difficult to quote clear data on men and prostitution because the data is only based on self-reporting and obviously many men will never reveal they use a prostitute until they are finally caught.

 

And from the data of those that have been caught in the US after propositioning an undercover police officer, it is revealed that 59.3 percent were single versus 44.2 percent who were married men, according to a study by Martin Monto, a sociologist at the University of Portland who has researched prostitution, published in the journal Violence Against Women in 2004.

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Celebrating your child’s existence without making her entitled or narcissistic

Friday, February 15th, 2013
Celebrating your childs existence without making her entitled or narcissistic

Celebrating your childs existence without making her entitled or narcissistic.
A study of 650 teenagers reveals that teenage children would choose fame over greater intelligence, beauty or physical strength.

The following is a transcript of an interview between Patrick Wanis, Human Behavior and Relationship Expert, PhD and Dr. Vicki Panaccione, child psychologist and Founder and Director of the Better Parenting Institute  www.betterparentinginstitute.com discussing a study that reveals that teenage children would choose fame over greater intelligence, beauty or physical strength. Patrick Wanis and Dr. Vicki also explore parenting styles and Dr. Vicki answers the question “Can children be divine without being narcissistic?” by revealing 4 strategies to raising children with healthy self-esteem. You can also listen to the interview here:

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http://Patrickwanis.com/RadioInterviews.asp#childnarciss

  

 

Patrick:                      This is Patrick Wanis, Human Behavior and Relationship Expert, PhD. In my newsletter, “Teen Low Self-Esteem, Loneliness, and the Desire for Fame”, http://patrickwanis.com/blog/teen-loneliness-self-esteem-desire-fame/ I referenced a study from 2007 where 650 teenage students were surveyed with a series of around 32 questions relating to pop culture. One of those questions was “If you could press a magic button and become stronger, smarter, more beautiful, more intelligent, famous, or no change at all, which would you pick?”

 

Interestingly, the boys chose fame as often as intelligence and the girls chose fame above intelligence and everything else. In other words, the study revealed that of these 650 teenagers who were surveyed, their number one goal was to become more famous. Interestingly, there was also a very powerful link between low self-esteem, loneliness, lack of appreciation, depression, and even isolation.

 

In other words, the more lonely the teenagers felt, the less appreciated they felt, the less connection with their parents or the lower their self-esteem and depression, the higher the rate or the ratio where they actually want to become famous or want to have closer connections and ties to celebrities.

 

Obviously, one of the key points is that we need to tend to these needs of children, but specifically teenagers. But ego is not the only driving force. There is also narcissism. In a study in the 1950s, only 12% of children surveyed said, “I’m an important person.” In 1989, the same study revealed that 80% of children said, “I’m an important person.”

 

Now, is this good or is this bad?

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The list of bad celebrity behavior

Tuesday, January 15th, 2013
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“Idolize the art but not the artist” – Patrick Wanis PhD

I have always encouraged people to separate the art from the artist; idolize the art but not the artist. We are all flawed and imperfect and when we put people on pedestals we eventually disappoint ourselves when they take themselves down from there and, we then become confused and disillusioned. “
- Patrick Wanis PhD Human Behavior & Relationship Expert

 

One of the world’s most famous and talented artists in surrealism, Salvador Dali, was described by George Orwell as “a good draughtsman and a disgusting human being.” Amongst his many bizarre and radical behaviors, Dalí sent telegrams to Francisco Franco, praising him for signing  death warrants for prisoners during the era of the Spanish Civil War.

Also read the article: “Stop listening to Mel Gibson – stop confusing art and artists” – http://patrickwanis.com/blog/stop-listening-to-mel-gibson-stop-confusing-art-and-artists

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And read Patrick Wanis’ insights in the article “Ban bad celebrities” – http://patrickwanis.com/blog/ban-bad-celebrities

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The famous surreal artist Salvador Dalí sent telegrams to Francisco Franco, praising him for signing death warrants for prisoners during the era of the Spanish Civil War.

Here is a list of some of the bad behavior of celebrities in 2012.

 

**** Ex Fleetwood Mac singer Stevie Nicks says she would have killed Nicki Minaj following profanity-laced disagreement between Minaj and Mariah Carey. “If I had been Mariah, I would have walked over to Nicki and strangled her to death right there…I would have killed her in front of all those people and had to go to jail for it.”

**** Amanda Bynes arrested for DUI and asks President Obama to fire the cop. She is also charged with leaving the scene of two car accidents. In 2007, Amanda Bynes told a TV reporter that ‘club scenes and drinking doesn’t appeal to me.”

**** Cher tweets that Romney wears magical underwear; Mormons refer to it as celestial underwear

**** Flavor Flav arrested and booked on two charges, felony assault with a deadly weapon and misdemeanor domestic violence (battery) for allegedly assaulting his fiancée and her underage son

**** Lil Wayne hurt because he couldn’t get front row seats to an OK game and says they should want him there because his presence would make the players perform better

**** Kris Humphries trashes Kim Kardashian and her family in communications with his ex-girlfriend, Myla Sinanaj, telling her that mother Kris Jenner directed her daughter to shoot her infamous sex tape with Ray J, and even asked her to re-shoot it because Jenner didn’t think the first one was pretty enough Continue reading “The list of bad celebrity behavior” »

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50 Flirting behaviors and signals – body language

Wednesday, January 9th, 2013
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There are over 50 Flirting behaviors and signals – non-verbal communication -body language

Research reveals that there are over 50 different flirting nonverbal behaviors and signals. Here are some of those including a few verbal flirting behaviors:

 

  • Batting eyelashes – also known as the eyebrow flash; this is an exaggerated raising of the eyebrows of both eyes, followed by a rapid lowering
  • Blowing kisses
  • Casual touching (especially the other person’s arm and leaning in while doing it)
  • Exposed neck (turning the head so that the side of the neck is bared); touching and running your hand along your bared neck
  • Eye contact  – prolonged; glancing and gazing (short and sustained)
  • The copulatory gaze – which says “I want you sexually”; the gaze triggers a primitive part of the human brain which demands one of two response  approach or retreat
  • Foot play – touching the other person’s foot with yours in open view or under the table
  • Giggling
  • Pushing your breasts out;
  • Imitating the other person’s behavior (changing postures as they change theirs which also sends a signal of play and challenge)
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Beware of The Dangers and Heartache of Affairs with a Married Man

Thursday, November 15th, 2012
Beware of the Dangers and Heartache of Affairs with a Married Man

Beware of the dangers and heartache of having an affair with married men

Here are more examples of the heartaches and dangers facing women who choose to have affairs with married men. This is also a continuation of the article “10 reasons women have affairs with married men” http://patrickwanis.com/blog/10-reasons-women-affairs-married-men/

 

A woman’s husband has an affair and promises he won’t do it again but does do it again. The wife dumps him and eventually divorces him. He begins a relationship with the mistress that he was having an affair with and when that falls apart, he has a relationship with another woman and he ends up marrying her. He didn’t marry the mistress and she was devastated. He left the mistress for another women whom he eventually married.

 

So there are complicated situations where there’s always an exception to the rule or someone just has major commitment issues, meaning a man as well. You also have the situation such as another client case, where a married woman had an affair with a married man. They both left their respective partners, they got together, and after six months the relationship fell apart.

 

She came to me after her relationship with the man she left her husband for fell apart. And it wasn’t hard to ascertain and determine immediately why it fell apart. And I said, “You began this relationship based on lies and deceit. You were lying and deceiving your husband. The other man, your lover, was lying and deceiving his wife. Now you get together and you both know at a deeper level that you really can’t trust each other.”

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