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Angry attacks over Terry Richardson

Friday, February 27th, 2015
A photo from Terry Richardson's old Tumblr account angry attacks over Terry Richardson

A photo from Terry Richardson’s old Tumblr account

The following is an email exchange between an angry reader and Patrick Wanis as a result of an article by FOX News quoting Wanis; the article reveals that Playboy magazine is using controversial fashion photographer Terry Richardson who has been accused of sexual assault spanning a decade.  Additional reading and links to Terry Ricardson photos are below.

 

—–Original Message—–
From: Patrick Wanis
Sent: Friday, February 27, 2015 6:26 AM
To: Karen P
Subject: FW: Need for a therapist.

Dear Karen,

I see N…. sent you my original quotes and you will notice that I was comparing the Bill Cosby case with Terry Richardson as a way to explain why people don’t care as much about Richardson as they do about Cosby who is the product – America’s dad.

 

Second, the fact that Terry Richardson is still shooting for the biggest fashion corporations in the world and for the biggest celebrities simply validates my assertion that people don’t care about the photographer as much as they care about the photo.

 

Third, the reporter did not ask me for my opinions about whether or not the above is right or wrong, nor was I asked about its effect on women.

 

Fourth, I suggest you research my work to determine whether or not I express concern for women and insight into women’s issues – http://youtu.be/btwwRycL-pk

http://youtu.be/Oh4uYdIqQNs

http://patrickwanis.com/blog/10-reasons-women-stay-abusive-relationships-1-5/

http://patrickwanis.com/blog/battered-womans-syndrome/

http://patrickwanis.com/blog/mel-gibson-charlie-sheen-battered-womans-syndrome/

 

Fifth, you call him a “sexual predator”; I do not as there are no charges against him and no conviction. I do, however, mention “accusations” against him.

 

Sixth, if you truly want to make change, then you should be contacting the celebrities that actually hire him – Beyonce, Lady Gaga, Miley Cyrus (he produced her video “Wrecking Ball” which has over 700 million views), Barrack Obama, Martha Stewart, Marilyn Manson, Mariah Carey, Sharon Stone, Gwyneth Paltrow, Cameron Diaz, Megan Fox, Lindsay Lohan, Kat Dennings, Liza Minnelli, Katy Perry, Kate Moss, Miranda Kerr, Kim Kardashian, Samuel L. Jackson, Tracy Morgan, Jared Leto, Amy Winehouse, Jon Bon Jovi, A$AP Rocky, Pharrell Williams, Lil Wayne, Daft Punk, Shaun White, LeBron James, and hundreds of other celebrities!

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15 Quotes 50 Shades that reveal abuse, violence & rape

Thursday, February 19th, 2015
15 Quotes from 50 Shades of Grey that reveal abuse, violence and rape

15 Quotes from 50 Shades of Grey that reveal abuse, violence and rape

Do women want a man who will control, dominate, intimidate, scare, abuse and rape them?

Is that what women truly aspire to experience in a relationship?

Is this the way women secretly fantasize about being treated?

No!

The following 15 quotes from the book 50 Shades of Grey reveal a woman who is an abuse victim and who would be categorized as suffering from Stockholm Syndrome. So why do readers and moviegoers admire her character?

Even Jamie Dornan who plays Christian Grey in the movie cannot explain it.

“I wonder what it is about this set of books that has, excuse my pun, penetrated the global market. Mass appreciation doesn’t always equate to something good. Think of Hitler! But I think, in this case, it must. It simply must. There’s got to be merit in it if so many people agree.”
-       Actor Jamie Dornan – confused and unable to offer reasons and an explanation for women’s fascination with 50 Shades of Grey

The movie is also telling men that women want to be abused; they want to be dominated, controlled, humiliated, criticized and raped!

Read my articles:
50 Shades – do women pine to be abused & controlled?
50 Shades promotes domestic violence
Falling in love with abusers

15 Quotes from 50 Shades of Grey that reveal abuse, violence and rape

 

  1. ‘You need to learn to manage my expectations. I am not a patient man.’ [Christian Grey]

 

  1. He’d probably like to beat seven shades of shit out of me. The thought is depressing.

 

  1. “Please don’t hit me,” I whisper, pleading.

 

  1. “You scare me when you’re angry,” I breathe, staring at him.

 

  1. I don’t want him to beat me, is that so unreasonable?

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Miley Cyrus’ distorted Free The Nipple foray

Thursday, January 8th, 2015
Miley Cyrus free the nipple

Miley Cyrus’ post on Instagram

Women are fighting for equality in the realm of breasts.

 

Why cannot a woman’s breasts and nipples be seen in public the way a man’s breasts and nipples can, asks The Free The Nipple campaign, which boasts a full-length feature film. The campaign refers to itself as movement to empower women against “female oppression and censorship.”

 

“There’s still so many laws against women’s bodies but barely any against men,” says movement founder Lina Esco. Various celebrities are supporting the campaign such as Rihanna, Liv Tyler, Lena Dunham, Scout Willis (she instigated a topless protest on the streets of New York in 2014) and Miley Cyrus.

However, Miley Cyrus did not protest topless on the streets.

Instead, she chose to superimpose her childhood face on the topless bodies of adult women!

 

Why did Miley Cyrus Photoshop child faces on women’s bodies? What is her message?

Cyrus is trying to say that we see children’s nipples as non-sexual – acceptable for all to view – and therefore we should also view adult women’s nipples as non-sexual.  However, one cannot change or transform social and cultural meanings overnight nor by instantly adding children’s faces over a woman’s topless body, for all that achieves is to force people to see the images as child porn and not as an attempt to make actual cultural changes.

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Top 10 Celebrity Meltdowns 2014

Saturday, December 27th, 2014
Top 10 celebrity meltdowns 2014 Shia LaBeaouf in a confrontation with a homeless man hours before his arrest

Shia LaBeaouf in a confrontation with a homeless man hours before his arrest.

TOP 10 CELEBRITY MELTDOWNS OF 2014 (eighth annual list)

By Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis PhD

 

They offended foreign governments, created international incidents, mocked victims of sexual abuse, dated a man that was convicted of child molesting, told depressed people they should kill themselves, humiliated disabled people, and still arrogantly shouted out “Do you know who the f… I am?”

 

2014 was probably the year of the most controversial and offensive behavior by celebrities.

 

Power and fame corrupt, and more money makes you more of whom you really are. For so many celebrities who already were void of morality, empathy and respect, the extreme attention, wealth, power and influence they yielded simply resulted in perverse, perverted and disgraceful behavior ripe with narcissism and callousness.

 

Can you guess who had the number 1 celebrity meltdown of 2014?

 

 

10. Dustin Diamond and Jason Biggs – The former star of “Saved by The  Bell” Dustin Diamond AKA Screech was arrested and charged after allegedly stabbing a man in a bar on Christmas! Actor Jason Biggs hasn’t outgrown his American Pie days. In yet another example of narcissism and complete disconnect from reality and human suffering, Biggs offends, insults and reveals his own callousness with a series of tweets mocking the death of Eric Hill a bachelorette contestant who died in a paragliding accident.

 

9. Shia LaBeouf and Christina Aguilera – It’s one of the most common issues of a celebrity – thinking that they are so vastly superior and significant that the law doesn’t apply to them. Last year, Reese Witherspoon said it when she and her husband were pulled over, and this year, Shia LaBeouf shouted it out. LaBeouf disturbed the Broadway musical “Cabaret” and as he was escorted out in handcuffs by police, he angrily and arrogantly tried to remind everyone of his supernatural status: “Do you know who the f… I am?” The police noted his name as they arrested him and charged him with disorderly conduct. He pleaded guilty and was ordered into a treatment for his bad behavior.  It should have been obvious that LeBeouf needed help when put a paper bag on his head that read “I AM NOT FAMOUS ANYMORE.” Meanwhile, Christina Aguilera reportedly had a meltdown when a Mickey Mouse character at Disneyland refused to take a photo with her because he was about to go on break. Aguilera allegedly pulled out the celebrity wildcard, shouting “Don’t you know who I am?” Mickey Mouse didn’t recognize the former Mouseketeer or didn’t care! She also called him an “A..hole.”

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Lena Dunham – a sexual predator?

Wednesday, November 12th, 2014
Photo posted by Lena Dunham of her 5-year-old sister with caption "#tbt that time I dressed my 5 year old sister as a Hell's Angel's sex property #1997"

Photo posted by Lena Dunham of her 5-year-old sister with caption “#tbt that time I dressed my 5 year old sister as a Hell’s Angel’s sex property #1997″

Lena Dunham,  the creator and star of HBO’s, “Girls”, has created a firestorm with some people accusing her of sexually abusing her younger sister following her newly published collection of personal essays, Not That Kind of Girl. In her book, Lena Dunham describes experimenting sexually with her younger sister Grace, whom she says she attempted to persuade to kiss her using “anything a sexual predator might do.” In one passage (p. 158-9), Dunham explains and describes how she experimented with her six-year younger sister’s vagina. “This was within the spectrum of things I did,” she writes.

 

“Do we all have uteruses?” I asked my mother when I was seven.

“Yes,” she told me. “We’re born with them, and with all our eggs, but they start out very small. And they aren’t ready to make babies until we’re older.”

I looked at my sister, now a slim, tough one-year-old, and at her tiny belly. I imagined her eggs inside her, like the sack of spider eggs in Charlotte’s Web, and her uterus, the size of a thimble.

“Does her vagina look like mine?”

“I guess so,” my mother said. “Just smaller.”

One day, as I sat in our driveway in Long Island playing with blocks and buckets, my curiosity got the best of me. Grace was sitting up, babbling and smiling, and I leaned down between her legs and carefully spread open her vagina. She didn’t resist, and when I saw what was inside I shrieked. “My mother came running. “Mama, Mama! Grace has something in there!”

My mother didn’t bother asking why I had opened Grace’s vagina. This was within the spectrum of things that I did. She just got on her knees and looked for herself. It quickly became apparent that Grace had stuffed six or seven pebbles in there. My mother removed them patiently while Grace cackled, thrilled that her prank had been such a success.

Did Grace, a 1-year-old baby have the knowledge and ability to create a prank on her mother involving stuffing 7 pebbles inside her vagina?

Lena Dunham also wrote this:

As she grew, I took to bribing her for her time and affection: one dollar in quarters if I could do her makeup like a “motorcycle chick.” Three pieces of candy if I could kiss her on the lips for five seconds. Whatever she wanted to watch on TV if she would just “relax on me.” Basically, anything a sexual predator might do to woo a small suburban girl I was trying.

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Friday, November 7th, 2014

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7 Reasons why Western youths are joining ISIS

Friday, October 17th, 2014
Why Western youths are joining ISIS. Samra Kesinovic, 17, and Sabina Selimovic, 15 fled Austria to join ISIS

Why Western youths are joining ISIS. Samra Kesinovic, 17, and Sabina Selimovic, 15 fled Austria to join ISIS

ISIS – the new online predator

[Update:March 5, 2015 - The FBI and Department of Homeland Security sent a joint warning to law enforcement across the country about the concern over a growing trend of girls and boys wanting to fight with ISIS in the wake of the detention of a 17-year-old Northern Virginia teen last week.]

US intelligence says more than 100 Americans have gone to Syria to join ISIS or have tried thus far – they are young and not just male.

Three girls from Minnesota left the US recently to join ISIS. One teenage US female who converted from Christianity to Islam, was arrested trying to fly to Syria to fight. Hundreds of teenage girls, many still underage are leaving their homes in Europe to join ISIS. In Austria, two teenage girls 15 and 17 fled to join ISIS in Syria and 12 others are believed to have done the same thing.

Update: The FBI said that it’s investigating the possibility that three girls from the Denver area tried to travel to Syria to join Islamic State extremists.  

The real answer to the uncovering the success of ISIS in recruiting American and other Western youth is to approach it with a multi-layered analysis.

 

The profile:

 

Age: Young – teens to mid 20s

 

Education: high school graduates and college students (in Europe, the females are college graduates)

 

Recruitment: self-recruited online via social media and web (not via radical Imams at Mosques)

 

Ethnicity: South Asian, East Asian, Caucasian, Middle Eastern and African-American descent

 

7 Key Reasons why Western Youth are joining ISIS

1. Identity – Unable to identify with American culture – identify more with Middle East or native country

 

2. Psychological issues – feelings of being alienated, potential trouble at home

 

3. Emotional needs – lack sense of purpose and belonging, lack of self-perceived significance; youth seem disengaged from community – outsiders, loners.

 

4. Unresolved Emotions – Anger & frustration: Angry at society and the perceived immorality and filth; frustrated by feeling of displacement, feelings of being second-class citizens.

 

5. Emotions and religious beliefs & ideologies – Helplessness and betrayal – believe that the West is killing their people – killing the Muslims; Grievance of mistrust of government and US authorities for spying on Muslims; desire to achieve something

 

6. Future goals & promises - Western girls are being enticed with romance – marriage proposals, family, love and a home

 

7. General malaise - Western youth are lost, disillusioned, disconnected; they lack purpose or meaning to life, and are thus seeking a cause and a leader

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Is there anything good about men?

Wednesday, September 17th, 2014
Is there anything good about men  Roy F Baumeister

Is there anything good about men? (photo: The Three Stooges)

This is the text and transcript of a presentation by Florida State University psychology professor Roy F. Baumeister to the American Psychological Association in San Francisco, August 24, 2007. You can also read his book “Is There Anything Good About Men?: How Cultures Flourish by Exploiting Men” published in 2010.

 

You’re probably thinking that a talk called “Is there anything good about men” will be a short talk! Recent writings have not had much good to say about men. Titles like Men Are Not Cost Effective speak for themselves. Maureen Dowd’s book was called Are Men Necessary? and although she never gave an explicit answer, anyone reading the book knows her answer was no. Louann Brizendine’s book, The Female Brain, introduces itself by saying, “Men, get ready to experience brain envy.” Imagine a book advertising itself by saying that women will soon be envying the superior male brain!

Nor are these isolated examples. Alice Eagly’s research has compiled mountains of data on the stereotypes people have about men and women, which the researchers summarized as “The WAW effect.” WAW  stands for “Women Are Wonderful.” Both men and women hold much more favorable views of women than of men. Almost everybody likes women better than men. I certainly do.

My purpose in this talk is not to try to balance this out by praising men, though along the way I will have various positive things to say about both genders. The question of whether there’s anything good about men is only my point of departure. The tentative title of the book I’m writing is “How culture exploits men,” but even that for me is the lead-in to grand questions about how culture shapes action. In that context, what’s good about men means what men are good for, from the perspective of the system.

Hence this is not about the “battle of the sexes,” and in fact I think one unfortunate legacy of feminism has been the idea that men and women are basically enemies. I shall suggest, instead, that most often men and women have been partners, supporting each other rather than exploiting or manipulating each other.

Nor is this about trying to argue that men should be regarded as victims. I detest the whole idea of competing to be victims. And I’m certainly not denying that culture has exploited women. But rather than seeing culture as patriarchy, which is to say a conspiracy by men to exploit women, I think it’s more accurate to understand culture (e.g., a country, a religion) as an abstract system that competes against rival systems — and that uses both men and women, often in different ways, to advance its cause.

Also I think it’s best to avoid value judgments as much as possible. They have made discussion of gender politics very difficult and sensitive, thereby warping the play of ideas. I have no conclusions to present about what’s good or bad or how the world should change. In fact my own theory is built around tradeoffs, so that whenever there is something good it is tied to something else that is bad, and they balance out.

I don’t want to be on anybody’s side. Gender warriors please go home.

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14 Tips for conflict resolution

Friday, September 12th, 2014
14 tips for conflict resolution

14 tips for conflict resolution


14 Tips for Conflict Resolution by Patrick Wanis PhD www.patrickwanis.com

 

1. Set objectives for the discussion i.e. state clearly what you want to resolve. Be clear within yourself about your needs.

 

2. Notice what you are feeling. If you are angry, separate yourself from the situation and take time to calm down. You cannot resolve an issue when your emotions are intense.

 

3. Address the problem, not the person. Began by thanking the person for being open to addressing the issue with you. Include a sincere compliment.

 

4. Communicate your feelings assertively, not aggressively. Express them without blaming. When you blame, you create resistance in the other person, he/she shuts down, and therefore he/she stops listening or hearing you.

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