I think once a man cheats – in his mind, he’s already sold what ever value his wife had to him. I think when a man cheats on his wife, it has much to do with what he thinks of his wife, (that he doesn’t think much of her at all, actually) not just answering to his base instincts. IT’s a fully conscious decision AGAINST the wife, and possibly a way of passively aggressively going against her, given all the planned deceit, detail after detail, that goes into it. A man can either go forward with an affair or not. He has total awareness of what he’s doing, and not all men cheat, so obviously some can and do hold their marriage sacred. This isn’t to say a woman shouldn’t help the process along…meaning, don’t make it convenient for your man to have constant exposure to a woman, where she is in his personal life, like a secretary at work, or a nanny/housekeeper at home. Yes, ideally, it shouldn’t matter, but it’s just
why not take out all the convenience so that it most likely can’t happen, not just won’t happen with the husband’s efforts alone.

The woman who’s sister is cheating on her husband needs to tell her sister and her husband, goodbye. Peace, light, and forgiveness are only for those who have earned it, and they totally have not earned it. They crossed a line that they know they shouldn’t have crossed. It’s a one-shot deal, and they know that and seem pretty in-your-face about it too, which tells me they think very little of the wife. It’s sad and toxic. She’s obviously the 3rd wheel in that marriage and will just waste her life in exhaustion trying to keeping a sell-out husband in line.