In this Success Newsletter, I would like to talk about the link between significance, self-esteem and happiness.
First, I would like to alert you that I will be presenting a phone seminar on “The three secrets to persuasion and influence” August 14 and another phone seminar “The secret to get what you want” on August 21. Details in next week’s success newsletter.
In one of my past Success Newsletters, I explained that self-esteem is measured by how much you like and accept yourself, how significant you feel and how capable you feel.
While we have only three physical needs for survival: food, water and shelter, we also have various emotional needs such as love, acceptance, validation, appreciation, affection and significance. I believe significance is one of our key needs.
The dictionary defines significant as having a meaning, important, purpose. Significance can be defined as having or likely to have a major effect; important.
So, I would like to pose the question, do you feel significant? Do you feel you are having a positive impact on other people? Do you feel you have a purpose in life, a mission, and are you living it?
I believe that our deepest sense of satisfaction and fulfillment comes from knowing that we are helping other people, contributing and adding value to other people’s lives. Whose life or lives are you impacting?
Another way to view this point is that we all need to be needed. Who needs you? Who depends on you? Do the people around you tell you how significant you are? Does your wife, husband, boss, son or daughter, best friend tell you how significant you are and what a positive impact you have and are having on their life? Do you tell them how significant they are? Do you recognize within yourself your significance and the impact you have on others?
Start today, start now: Tell the people in your life that they are significant. Tell them what it is about them that makes them significant to you. It is not surprising that the people we least appreciate, compliment, praise are those that are closest to you. We do this because we fear that they might reject us or that we are not good enough or deserving of their love and respect. Thus, begin with the people in relationship to you – partner, family and then business and professional.
You might begin by saying something such as: Mariko, I want to tell you how important you are to me. You have been a blessing in my life. You have helped me to face and overcome many of my fears. You have taught me to love, to be more patient, kind and understanding and less angry. You have helped me to be less selfish and more thoughtful. You have encouraged me to step out of my comfort zone and to learn to love more unconditionally. You have helped me to see that I can be strong and dependable. Your sincerity, vulnerability and honesty inspire me…I need you in my life because you are a light and your love is a wondrous gift and I treasure our connection. Our relationship is so important to me…
Imagine now how fantastic it would feel to receive such a message or to relay this message. The both of you will feel inspired to love and be grateful for what you have. The both of you will feel significant and appreciated and you will both naturally want to express more love and kindness to each other…
Do it now. Don’t wait till it is too late and you live to regret what you could have said or wish you had said.
On a side note, ladies, don’t wait for your man to tell you he loves you. If you feel it, just say it. You will feel better and if he can’t handle it or isn’t ready then at least you know now!
To learn more about the power of giving and adding value to other people’s lives, check out my audio book “Get what you want!” http://patrickwanis.com/GetWhatYouWantAudioBook.asp
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I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”
Patrick Wanis
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & Clinical Hypnotherapist
www.patrickwanis.com
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