In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to explore lies – why we lie, how we started lying and how to stop it.

First a quick update:

·         “Celebrity Drugs, Lies and Cheating”: Baseball star, A Rod admitted using steroids, Basketball Star, Dwayne Wade’s wife divorced him, originally citing adultery; Micheal Phelps was shown in a photo smoking marijuana from a bong and; R & B singer Chris Brown was arrested for allegedly attacking a woman believed to be Rihanna…Listen to the interview I gave to Russ Morley, News/Talk 850 WFTL when I reveal the psychological and emotional motivations of celebrities uncovering the link between their roots, upbringing, discipline, insecurities, morality, willpower and the exaggerated effects of money, fame and temptation. http://patrickwanis.com/RadioInterviews.asp

Now, let’s talk about the lies.

The dictionary defines a lie as: to speak falsely or utter untruth knowingly, as with intent to deceive; something intended or serving to convey a false impression; imposture: “His flashy car was a lie that deceived no one.”

It’s true that we all have told a lie at one time or another in our life; some bigger than others. Most of our lies began as children and you might be shocked to think about how you learned to lie. I say learned because everything we do is based on programming and responses to situations that later become habits.

The adults in our childhood lives unknowingly taught us to lie.

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In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to offer 12 strategies to help you to overcome the present fear and anxiety over the economy.

First a quick update:

·         Soul mates – fact or a dangerous myth? I am giving an interview on the myths and concepts of soul mates: “Single Again! Now What?” Internet Radio Show- www.SingleAgainNowWhatRadio.com. To listen to the live show or ask questions, call 347-215-6997 on Wednesday February 18, 2009 at 6 PM EST. If you cannot make it, I will have the recorded version available next week.

Now, let’s talk about twelve ways to overcome the current pervading fear and anxiety.

Recently, I gave an interview to Harrison Klein for The Masters Gathering – a collection of recognized success masters offering insights and advice regarding success and happiness. (http://www.themastersgathering.com/?11226 It will be posted next week. During the interview I clarified the difference between positive thinking and solution-oriented thinking.

Positive thinking is often closer to denial than it is to reality or problem solving.

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In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to expand on and address the overwhelming mixed responses to last week’s newsletter about forgiveness.

First a quick update:

·         “40 Greatest Celebrity Divorces” on VH1 features me as I analyze and reveal motivations, causes of the divorces as well as insights about what can be learned from the celebrity divorces and their issues. Show airs Saturday February 14, 2009 at 9 PM EST, Sun Feb 15 at 3 PM and Thursday Feb 19 at 8 PM.

·         Soul mates – fact or a dangerous myth? Listen to the interview I will be giving to Joanie Winberg about the various myths and concepts of soul mates: “Single Again! Now What?” Internet Radio Show- www.SingleAgainNowWhatRadio.com. Mark your calendar: To listen to the live show or ask questions, call 347-215-6997 on Wednesday February 18, 2009 at 6 PM EST.

Now, I would like to expand on the controversial point that forgiveness is for you i.e. you need to forgive for your benefit more than for the benefit of the person being forgiven.

Can you recall a relationship that began with great joy and happiness? Can you recall those wonderful feelings of joy, laughter, fun and ecstasy? How great did you feel when you were expressing love to the other person? What did that feel like?

And now after someone hurts you, what does it feel like when you feel the resentment, blame, bitterness, anger, frustration, vindictiveness and the desire for revenge, all of which are poisons and toxins in your body? They hurt you more than they hurt the other person. You feel bad don’t you?

And even worse, these negative toxic emotions transform into physical illness – headaches, neck pain, ulcers, stomach problems, insomnia, irritability, fatigue, etc. 

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In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to talk about the controversial topic of ‘forgiving the unforgivable.’

First a quick update:

·         Soul mates – fact or a dangerous myth? Listen to the interview I will be giving to Joanie Winberg about the various myths and concepts of soul mates: “Single Again! Now What?” Internet Radio Show- www.SingleAgainNowWhatRadio.com. Mark your calendar: To listen to the live show or ask questions, call 347-215-6997 on Wednesday February 18, 2009 at 6 PM EST.

Now, let’s talk about forgiving the unforgivable.

Here is an excerpt from my 3 CD live audio set – “Secrets to losing weight, being thin and loving your body”: http://patrickwanis.com/SecretsLosingWeight.asp

“I said earlier that most of us are afraid of rejection and most of us are walking around with negative emotions, so how do we release these? How do we overcome the fear of rejection? How do we let go of our judgments -the judgements we made about ourselves and about people around us? 

The answer and process are forgiveness.

Now, I’m sure that most of you when you signed up for this long work shop and program that you didn’t think for a moment that we’d be talking about forgiveness. But we’re going to spend a lot of time talking about forgiveness because forgiveness is what’s going to help set you free and you know if you walk out of here today and never exercise again or you don’t change your diet, if you can simply get to the place of forgiving yourself and other people around you you’ll be much happier and you’ll feel good about yourself regardless of what happens to your body shape or whether you get on that treadmill every single day.

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