In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to follow up on last week’s newsletter about “Dealing with Emotional Vampires” and answer many requests to reveal strategies and insights into ways to liberate yourself and transform if you are the emotional vampire and not the ‘victim.’

First a quick update:

• “Older woman –younger man” - News Anchorwoman Katie Couric is seventeen years older than her boyfriend Brooks Perlin. Is it a sign of the times? Can a relationship between an older woman and a younger man succeed? Read my insights in the interview I gave to Globe Magazine out next week.

• Wanted: “Everlasting love with an adult stable male.” Jennifer Aniston recently announced that she is tired of her personal life reflecting her on-screen roles. Read my insights in the interview I gave to OK Magazine out this week.

Now, let’s talk about what to do if you are one of those people that drains or feeds on others mentally, emotionally or energetically – the psychic and emotional vampires.

Last week, I identified the various types of emotional vampires, their behavior, their effect on others and ways to handle them and protect and strengthen yourself. If you missed the newsletter, it is archived at www.patrickwanis.com/blog 

The newsletter hit a nerve and resonated with many people who said they are grateful for the insights adding that they are forwarding the newsletter onto others. I also received requests for help by courageous people who admitted that they are emotional vampires!

Andy wrote on my blog, asking for help: “I am an emotional vampire. I don’t want to be. How do I stop? I do this to everyone in my life and I really hate the man I have become.”

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In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to talk about how to identify, understand, and handle emotional vampires, the people who drain your energy and suck the life out of you.

First a quick update:

• “A healthy mind in a healthy body” -  The Ancient Greeks and Romans preached the powerful link and circle between the mind and body, and in the 21st century professionals are waking up to this as the key to total health – mental, physical and emotional. The pioneer in this field is Mark Hyman, M.D. — a 4-time NY Times bestselling author. He has 7 keys, and you can see more about these keys, including some startling videos that explain it all, by going to this website now: www.ultramindcoaching.com/es/197/21/cd35/9/ 

Now, let’s talk about the people that drain you or feed on you mentally, emotionally or energetically – the psychic and emotional vampires.

Almost every one of us has someone in our life whom we wish we could change or whom we wish would change; desiring them to do things differently or to be different. It might be a boss, coworker, colleague, team member, friend, family member or worse, a romantic partner.

Understanding that we cannot change anyone (except ourselves) is step one to inner peace. Step two is to understand yourself and others. Step three is change yourself. Step four is clear out of your life those people that are parasites or bring you down. A client of mine was relating to me that all the women in his life expect him to support them (on many levels) but they never support him. I explained to him that there are only two types of relationships: parasitic (one person living and feeding off the other person) and symbiotic (the two people mutually supporting and benefitting each other.)

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In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to discuss a controversial topic: when she just doesn’t get it.

First a quick update:

·         “Xtreme: on the verge”- Look for upcoming episodes of the TV series on Mun2 that follows Latin band Xtreme (Danny D and Steve Styles) as I coach them on camera helping them on their path to greater success

Now, let’s talk about something that will generate a lot of controversy: When she doesn’t get it – defining the woman of the 21^st century and her impact on men.

First, let me open by saying that nothing I am writing here is intended nor should it be construed to be sexist, derogatory or demeaning to women or to men. Second, you can add your comments and opinions about this newsletter by going to www.patrickwanis.com/blog.

From 1998 to 2004, the smash hit TV series “Sex and the City” introduced a new role and persona for the woman of the 90s and into the 21st century. Focusing on the lives of four professional women living in NY city, the show explored the changing roles and expectations of women (albeit white middle-class women in their thirties and one in her forties.) The show defined the new woman: The independent, upwardly mobile woman who searches for love, has sexual fun along the way (with multiple partners, and sometimes without any commitment whatsoever), gossiping and confiding with her female friends and viewing shopping and materialism as the key goals, pleasures and triumphs of the new woman.

In 2005, CBS news interviewed me to discuss the new woman, “The Millennium Woman” and her impact on men. A study of 1,000 women across the US, revealed that there are two key types of women: the Nouveau woman -the “Sex and the City” type, who creates equal partnerships with men and demands “me” time and the Neotraditionalist that prefers traditional gender roles, motherhood and “we” time. The Neotraditionalist is primarily about family and friends.

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