In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal ways to overcome loneliness – now and at any time of the year.

First a quick update:

ü  Dating and making a lasting first impression: Read the transcript the interview I gave to Jennifer Vogel “Relationships for twentysomethings” reporter for Examiner.com revealing techniques, tips and strategies to help you make lasting first impressions when dating. Read more here: http://patrickwanis.com/blog/index.php/2009/12/29/making-a-lasting-first-impression/

ü  Emotional Vampires – Next week, I will be releasing a detailed interview I just gave to the German psychology magazine PM offering more insights into handling and dealing with emotional vampires. Meanwhile you can read about emotional vampires:  http://patrickwanis.com/blog/index.php/2009/06/10/dealing-with-emotional-vampires/ and
http://patrickwanis.com/blog/index.php/2009/06/17/freeing-the-emotional-vampire-in-you/

Now, let’s talk about ways to overcome loneliness.

For many people, the toughest, most challenging and most stressful time of the year is The Holiday Season and its various celebrations & rituals such as Christmastime, the New Year and the parties. Expectations are created for giving gifts, throwing parties, welcoming family members, dealing with relatives & others whom you cannot stand, and braving a happy face while facing the expectations that others have of you: your career, personal and romantic life, the way you interact with others and the person you have become!

The result can be like a Molotov cocktail – tension, arguments, fall-outs, emotional outbursts, sadness, grief and depression.

One of the most common appeals to me from clients and others is for help dealing with loneliness, particularly around the Holidays.

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In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to discuss the lessons from Tiger Woods.

First a quick update:

• Only a few remaining: I shared with you that the real breakthrough in our lives comes from emotional freedom and I created a complete turnkey solution that allows anyone to create a complete “life makeover.” If you are ready to “unlearn” all of the negative programming and change the way you feel, then this is for you. I am offering this to only 100 of my subscribers and now there are only a handful left, so hurry  www.patrickwanis.com/emotionalfreedom

• For men only: Here is the perfect gift for the man in your life who wants more success with women – even if that woman is you. My audio training CD/MP3 program “The New Science of Persuasion” where you will learn the key to all persuasion; Key secrets to understanding women; the First secret that every guy needs to know about women; The primary goal that will help you to win a woman and; much more. If you are a woman, then get this program for your man; it will help your relationship when he knows how to understand you and treat you. Click here: http://patrickwanis.com/ScienceOfPersuasion.asp

• How to Survive the office party -and get ahead: Listen to the 20-minute interview I gave to Jim Peake of MySuccessGateway.com where I reveal  techniques and strategies about how to succeed at the Holiday parties and events – http://patrickwanis.com/communicationskills/Packages.asp

Now, let’s talk about lessons we can learn from Tiger Woods.

Eldrick Tont “Tiger” Woods is one of the most successful golfers of all time. He is the World No. 1, the highest-paid professional athlete in 2008; he earned $110 million from winnings and endorsements.

Woods has won 14 professional major golf championships. He has more career major wins and career PGA Tour wins than any other active golfer. He is the youngest player to achieve the career Grand Slam, and the youngest and fastest to win 50 tournaments on tour. Woods has won 16 World Golf Championships and has won at least one event each of the 11 years they have been in existence.

Woods has made an estimated $1 billion in endorsements in his 13-year career, the most of any athlete ever. Sports Illustrated estimates he’s now bringing in $100 million a year pitching various products.

But just a few weeks ago, all of that began to change as the world heard story after story of alleged affairs, trysts and secret sordid liaisons involving Woods and around 11 different women.

On Sunday, the golfer lost his first endorsement deal with gllobal consulting firm Accenture, Ltd who said it felt Woods was “no longer the right representative” following the “circumstances of the last two weeks.” Further, Gillette stopped airing all advertisements featuring Woods, and AT&T has announced that it is re-evaluating its relationship with Woods.

And last Friday, Woods announced his indefinite leave from golf to focus on being on a better husband and father. Yes, Woods admitted to some transgressions.

So what can be learned and gleaned from this story? Is it just a case of a married man who has a compulsive problem and who subsequently betrayed his wife many times?

No, there is much more to this story.

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In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to discuss and reveal how to overcome the greatest challenge we all face around The Holidays, and possible the greatest challenge in life – accepting the unacceptable.

First a quick update:

• Emotional freedom guarantees success: Many people have been asking for help, saying that they long to break away from the daily grind and start living a life full of abundance. The real breakthrough comes from emotional freedom and I have just finished creating a complete turnkey solution that allows anyone to create a complete “life makeover.” If you are ready to “unlearn” all of the negative programming and change the way you feel, then this is for you. I offered this to only 100 of my subscribers a few months ago but I am doing it again because it is The Holidays, so hurry and click here: www.patrickwanis.com/emotionalfreedom

• The Top Nine Tips to Help You Enjoy The Holidays: Listen to the 45-minute interview I give to Jim Peake of MySuccessGateway.com about how to avoid arguments, fights and enjoy the Holidays; click here: http://patrickwanis.com/holidaytips/Packages.asp

Now, let’s talk about accepting the unacceptable.

In last week’s Success Newsletter, I mentioned that one of the primary reasons that The Holidays have become so stressful is because we’ve placed so many expectations around The Holidays; expectations about ourselves, others and the special day or events.

In an article I wrote and published by Date.com, I explain:

The Holidays automatically trigger every single insecurity that we have as well as our fears, anger, frustration, resentment, bitterness, guilt, shame and any other negative emotion that we hide deep inside. The reason this occurs is because we become emotionally vulnerable when we spend time with the people closest to us – our family and when we combine that with our expectations of them and of ourselves it’s easy for the eruption to occur. In other words, all of our hurts, fears and failures are triggered by our family members. While our initial reaction is to blame them, please understand that all they succeed in doing is triggering what is already inside of us. That means we can’t blame other people for the way we chose to respond to them and their behavior.

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In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal the simple keys to enjoying the Holidays.

First a quick update:

• “Top tips to avoid arguments and avoid Holiday Stress”: Listen to the radio interview I give to world famous TV personality Sally Jessy Raphael about my top nine tips, techniques and strategies to prevent arguments, fights and stress around the Holidays. I also reveal insights into the male and female traits that create hurt, pain, depression and major disappointments during the Holidays. http://patrickwanis.com/RadioInterviews.asp#EasingHolidayStress

• “What a woman wants – and how to give it to her”: Here is the ideal Holiday gift for the man in your life – your boyfriend, husband, brother, best friend or single father. My book is a makeover book for men – offering insights into women, dating, love and romance. This book also makes a great coffee table book, opening up conversation and discussion – and it is available in paperback or Ebook. “WOW. I never believed a guy actually could know about how a woman feels.  I think EVERY MAN needs to read this book; there would be a lot more happy women out there if they did!” –Amber L. Age 24 –Texas; “The techniques from your book gave great guidelines for talking to women, the results have been phenomenal” Steve W. Age 35 –Ohio. http://patrickwanis.com/WhatAWomanWantsBook.asp

Now, let’s talk about how to enjoy the Holidays

Recently, a reporter interviewed me for my insights and key strategies to actually enjoy the Holidays. Below is a condensed summary of my advice.

There is a saying “nothing has real meaning except the meaning we bring to it.” And it is true that the primary reason that Holidays have become stressful is because we’ve placed so many expectations around the Holidays; expectations about ourselves, others and the special day or events.

Step one to enjoying the Holidays is to review your expectations of them. Often, all of the arguments that occur over the holidays occur because someone expects someone else to do something, to be something or even to have something i.e. a gift or a specific gift.

Ask yourself “Am I having realistic expectations?” Sometimes we expect that our Holidays will feel the same way that they did when we were a child and they can’t because we’re not a child and our parents aren’t looking after us and yes, we now have responsibilities. So, we need to reframe, readjust and fine-tune our expectations.

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