In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to discuss the dangers and consequences of attachment, greed and desire.

First a quick update:

ü  Tiger Woods – the apology & The Fame Factor – So the experts got it all wrong as they claimed Tiger is a sex addict but he admitted to what I said from the outset, being a victim of The Fame Factor and losing his faith and core values. Read the expanded transcript of the interview I gave to Russ Morley of 850 WFTL about Tiger Woods, his apology, the male ego and The Fame Factor:

http://patrickwanis.com/blog/index.php/2010/02/24/tiger-woods-the-apology-the-fame-factor/

Now, let’s talk about craving – attachment, greed and desire.

During the opening ceremony of the 2010 Winter Olympic Games in Vancouver, k.d. Lang was featured with version of the Leonard Cohen song Hallelujah. K.d. Lang is also famous for winning a Grammy in 1993 for her biggest hit song, “Constant Craving”:

Even through the darkest phase

Be it thick or thin

Always someone marches brave

Here beneath my skin

Constant craving

Has always been

One can interpret this song to mean that we all have a constant craving and that this constant craving has always been around.

Another person that threw “craving” into the spotlight is Tiger Woods. Of course, many people are still talking about and dissecting Tiger Woods’ apology. This success newsletter is not about the apology, but it is about a powerful lesson and revelation from that apology, when Tiger Woods referred to the consequences of his craving and the link to his faith, Buddhism.

There are two key things that Tiger Woods said. First:

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In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal the motivations and reasons women cheat.

First a quick update:

ü  The relationship poll – Read the interview I gave to the Daily Vanguard about the relationship poll it took with college students and with surprising findings when males and females identified trust, loyal and honesty as the most important thing they look for in a partner. http://www.dailyvanguard.com/the-vanguard-s-relationship-poll-1.2154807

ü  Does your marriage or relationship suffer from the putt putt syndrome? – I have been appointed the exclusive relationship expert for the new movie, “The Putt Putt Syndrome.” What is it? How do you prevent it? How do you get out of it? Read the transcript of the interview I gave to Joanie Winberg CEO of the National Association of Divorce for Women and Children and host of “Single Again! Now What?” Talk Radio Show. http://patrickwanis.com/blog/index.php/2010/02/15/is-your-relationship-suffering-from-the-putt-putt-syndrome/

Now, let’s talk about why women cheat.

When we mention the word cheating, we often immediately think of men – Tiger Woods, John Edwards, Elliot Spitzer, Governor Mark Sanford, ESPN’s Steve Phillips, Robert “Mutt” Lange, Bill Clinton, Newt Gingrich, Peter Cook and the list goes on. From politicians, athletes and musicians to corporate executives such as Oracle President Charles E. Philips, it seems as if men are cheating all the time and much more than women.

But what about women? Do women cheat?

The latest statistics reveal that women cheat on their husbands equally as much as men – one in five married women has had an affair according to the National Opinion Research Center.

Why do women cheat on their husbands and are their motivations different from men’s motivations?

Yes, women cheat for different reasons to men!

As I have outlined in various media interviews and articles, men cheat first and foremost because of power, opportunity, narcissism and a lack of self-discipline (i.e. they can’t say no and thus they give into temptation.) Listen to the various radio interviews I have given about men, cheating and power at http://patrickwanis.com/RadioInterviews.asp

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In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal secrets about the four key personality types and their compatibility.

First a quick update:

ü  Does your marriage or relationship suffer from the putt putt syndrome? – I have been appointed the exclusive relationship expert for the new movie, “The Putt Putt Syndrome.” What is it? How do you prevent it? How do you get out of it? Listen to the interview I gave to Joanie Winberg CEO of the National Association of Divorce for Women and Children and host of “Single Again! Now What?” Talk Radio Show. I discuss the syndrome and how to get out of it. http://patrickwanis.com/RadioInterviews.asp#PuttSyndrome

ü  Divorced? Widowed? A Single Mom? - If you are Stuck in the muck and not sure how to move your life forward, take advantage and find love and happiness again with a new mentoring program for women! Click here: http://tinyurl.com/yd6hzuk

Now, let’s talk about personalities and compatibility.

When it comes to attraction, there are many factors that determine the magnetism and subsequent compatibility of two people in a relationship. Of course, the type of relationship (business, social or romantic) will determine the factors behind attraction and compatibility.

Some of the factors involved in attraction include:

Physical

Mental

Emotional

Spiritual

Biological

Cultural

Biological attraction refers to one of the few aspects of our brain that is truly hardwired. For example, we have a type of DNA of our immune system known as Major Histocompatibility Complex (MHC.) Research shows that the more opposite the immune system, the more we will unconsciously be attracted to the other person because two people with opposite immune genes will produce healthy offspring with an even stronger resulting immune system. Incidentally, although it is not fully clear, research suggests that we recognize each other’s immune genes via smell; we literally sniff out each other – although it is an unconscious action.

In that sense, the expression, “Opposites attract” is actually quite accurate. But that wonderful catchphrase can also be quite misleading. As I explained in a Success Newsletter, from October 22, 2008, “What do you value?” http://patrickwanis.com/blog/index.php/2008/10/22/what-do-you-value/ it is critical to the success and longevity of a relationship that a couple’s core values are the same; that they match. Clashing values lead to the breakdown of relationships, friendships and businesses. Identical or complimentary values lead to flourishing relationships in all areas of life.

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