A new book, “the truth about cheating” by Gary Neuman says the top reason men cheat is because they feel underappreciated by their woman. “This is an outrage” says therapist Patrick Wanis PhD, “Again men are trying to let themselves off the hook by laying the blame on women, trying to make women feel guilty because they aren’t doing enough for their man.” Does Patrick Wanis have a point?
The press release further below “Is Sarah Palin seducing America?” created a storm. Some journalists and reporters found it to be insightful while others were offended:
“I find your description of Hillary Clinton offensive. Don’t send me this sort of biased material please. I agree with what you say about Palin but not Clinton.” -Pati Gras Senior Producer and Host Houston PBS
“I find this extraordinarily offensive and insulting. This is not news. You are contributing to the dumbing-down of America.” -Elaine Appleton Grant, Writer/Editor
The media has made numerous requests and calls for me to offer my insights as a Human Behavior Expert and Celebrity Life Coach to explain Sarah Palin’s sudden and instant popularity.
Here are my responses summarized:
Republican vice presidential candidate Sarah Palin appears to have taken America by storm and is quickly becoming a celebrity.
Why is she so popular?
Patrick Wanis PhD, Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior Expert and Clinical Hypnotherapist says: “Sarah Palin represents what many women would aspire to be in the 21s century. Sarah Palin:
· Is a former beauty queen
· Still looks attractive and healthy; her face has a beautiful glow to it
· Has a family
· Is intelligent and successful in a man’s world – politics
· Has more power than her husband
· Is feminine
· Is homey and appears sincere
· Still maintains a down to earth organic image in spite of her success – she wears glasses, hair is carefully tied up in a bun to look cute, sweet, feminine and approachable
· Is charismatic, articulate, good speaker, and she exudes confidence and courage
Men like Sarah Palin even more than women do according to a recent poll: (more…)
Sex and the City fans across the globe might be shocked by the claim that hubby Matthew Broderick cheated on his wife, Sarah Jessica Parker, but it comes as no surprise to one expert who says there are huge parallels between this alleged betrayal and the Christie Brinkley divorce.
“The male ego is huge yet fragile: Few men can handle a woman who has more power, more money and more fame than them” says Patrick Wanis PhD, Human Behavior Expert and Celebrity Life Coach. “While Matthew Broderick and Sarah Jessica Parker might have been New York’s favorite couple and a powerful one at that, Parker is the face of New York and is much more popular and influential than husband Broderick. Men who marry women who are tremendously successful often feel emasculated. Society has written the script that the man is the financial provider and the woman is supposed to be subservient, serve him and depend on him. Today, in the 21st century, the roles are changing but the effect is still destructive for the male ego and the men seek sexual conquest as a way to reclaim their power.” (more…)
Heath Ledger’s The Joker may have just stolen the show in the Batman film: The Dark Knight. But why are we so fascinated by villains and evil characters?
“There is a dark side in all of us. Good and evil exist in all of us, and often they are in conflict” according to Patrick Wanis PhD, Human Behavior Expert and Clinical Hypnotherapist. “In our daily life, we try to deny the evil or dark side in us, while on screen, a movie creates the vehicle where we can relate and play out some of our deeper subconscious emotional tendencies –even the bad ones.”
Wanis says “The human brain consists of three parts – its stem is known as the Reptilian Brain – which holds five core ruling emotions: love, lust, hate, fear and pleasure. We are often trying to escape the dark side, the villainous, hateful urges in all of us -The Joker.”
“In the movie: The Dark Knight, Heath Ledger portrays The Joker as a gritty, psychopathic, cold-blooded murdering clown with no empathy, a maniacal sadist with no conscience. As Batman battles villain The Joker (and sometimes the villain within himself), the movie also represents our own internal battle between good and evil. In other words, we all have the capacity to commit good and evil and this has been proven in psychological behavioral research studies as well as real life stories.”
“It’s not an easy pill to swallow to admit that we feel enthralled and even liberated by some of the evil deeds of on screen villains . And although it seems The Joker might steal the show, this is not the first villain that has caught our attention and resonated with mass audiences: the evil Darth Vader not only fights “The Force” –the power of good, but like The Joker, he instills and controls via fear. Maybe that explains why sometimes we relate and almost root for the villain over the hero, be it The Wicked Witch of the West, The Terminator, Catwoman or Star War’s Palpatine.”
Teen pregnancies rose in the United States for the first time in 15 years and more youth offenders ages 12 to 17 were involved in serious violent crimes. And according to one human behavior expert, dads are to blame!
“Parents need to realize that father absence is the overriding risk factor in for early sexual activity and adolescent pregnancy”, says Human Behavior Expert and Clinical Hypnotherapist Patrick Wanis PhD. “The less dads are around and the more women are forced to become single mothers and raise daughters on their own, the more continued higher rates of teen pregnancies we are going to see.”
“Study after study shows that dads need to be actively involved in raising their children and specifically their daughters. In one study done over 15 years, a total of 820 girls were followed for their entire childhoods, from before kindergarten to approximately age 18 and it was found that ‘father presence was a major protective factor against early sexual outcomes, even if other factors were present. In other words, mom can’t be expected to raise kids or daughters on her own” says Wanis. (more…)
Celebrity Christie Brinkley chose to go public about the sordid affair her husband Peter Cook had, but is that move backfiring?
“Christie Brinkley is out to get more than just custody of the children - she is out to get revenge and revenge is the most destructive emotion we can choose to express and in Brinkley’s case it will harm her, her children and sway public opinion against her” says author of “Get the man you want!”, Human Behavior Expert and Life Coach Patrick Wanis PhD.
“Brinkley had the chance but she opposed a move by the legal guardian for her children that would have closed the proceedings to the public. She wanted the whole world to know everything - the intimate details of her estranged husband Peter Cook’s affair with the teenager and the intimate details of their 10-year marriage. But dirty laundry and turning into a bitter scorned woman can consume you, overpower you and turn the world against you as was the case with Paul McCartney’s ex-wife, Heather Mills.” (more…)
It is common to see many successful people having been born into success; to have been born in a family that gave them every opportunity where they also had the support, connections and money to achieve a great deal of success.
But what drives successful people to go even further?
What drives high achievers to even try to excel their already successful family? What prevents them from becoming lazy and spoiled even when we are born into money and wealth? What drives them to continue to quest for more success, more creativity and more contribution?
“Dad often is the primary role model and impetus for success -or not” says author of “Get What You Want!”, Human Behavior Expert and Life Coach Patrick Wanis PhD.
“When people born into success and money decide to achieve even greater success and fame, the relationship between son and father or daughter and father is often very strong and close whereby dad is the mentor, example or the hands-on teacher” according to Wanis. “However what drives the children most to succeed and not become lazy or spoiled is their own personal drive for ambition often coupled with a psychological profile of independence and determination; the desire to make their own mark and sometimes to prove that they can do it on their own.”
Governor Spitzer, Bill Clinton, Bill Murray, Shania Twain’s famous music producer husband, and now maybe, Dr Phil? What is the link between power and infidelity?
“Being placed in a position of power and authority opens the door for conditions that are ripe for cheating”, according to Patrick Wanis PhD, Human Behavior Expert, Clinical Hypnotherapist and author of “Get the man you Want!”
“Men who hold positions of influence such as a political office have greater access and opportunities to cheat than the average man does. They face greater temptation because they have power, control and command over other people. Power leads to cheating because it can lead to delusions of invincibility, entitlement and the male ego drive to dominate and conquer” says Wanis.
“The combination of access, temptation, delusions of invincibility & entitlement and the control over others also creates the ultimate test of morals and values as exemplified by priests who have molested boys in their care. Often, paradoxically, many of the cheaters are overly self-righteous men who end up doing the very things they were preaching against which is now also the rumor about Dr Phil.”
Michelle Obama’s comments that this is the first time in her adult life that she is proud of her country may have been her subconscious truth triggered by emotion” according to Patrick Wanis, PhD, Celebrity Life Coach and Human Behavior Expert.
“Most people carefully structure and reveal what they wish other people to know to illicit a desired response. This is known as our conscious projection. However, our subconscious truth is what and who we are inside, in our core –our real self and feelings” says Wanis, a Clinical Hypnotherapist. “Intensely emotional states and experiences trigger our subconscious truth and this is what probably occurred with Michelle Obama during her political speech.”