Comments on: Let go of the past http://patrickwanis.com/blog/let-go-of-the-past/ Human Behavior Expert and Celebrity Life Coach Wed, 05 Jun 2013 17:06:40 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.5.1 By: Patrick http://patrickwanis.com/blog/let-go-of-the-past/comment-page-1/#comment-328 Patrick Mon, 09 Jun 2008 14:14:03 +0000 http://patrickwanis.com/blog/index.php/2008/06/04/let-go-of-the-past/#comment-328 Dear Debby,

I am glad that my initial response was helpful to you. It seems and sounds like you have never been good at putting yourself first. In other words, you are probably not a good reciever and you feel uncomfortable when people do things for you. You probably have created a habit of only serving others. I am almost sure this goes back to what you experienced as a child.

With regards to finding it difficult to separate, ask yourself what are afraid of. It may be many things. Try and find the key, core fear.

Your therapist should be helping you to smash your old subconscious belief regarding recieving and being treated well (where you thoughts, feelings and opinions count) and should be helping you to learn to love yourself first so that others can love you.

I hope this helps. If you get to the place where you feel you need greater help, you may consider me working with you over the phone.

Whatever choices you make, I hope they will set you free to love and be loved!

Patrick

]]> By: Debby http://patrickwanis.com/blog/let-go-of-the-past/comment-page-1/#comment-327 Debby Sun, 08 Jun 2008 23:04:30 +0000 http://patrickwanis.com/blog/index.php/2008/06/04/let-go-of-the-past/#comment-327 Patrick,
You knew exactly what I was talking about! :) Thank you! My husband and I went to a marriage counselor several months ago, who, along with many other things, stated that we are quite opposite, and that we may benefit from individual counseling.. he was diagnosed with clinical depression…. me? trying to please everyone, except me. I have been seeing a therapist for myself, not so much for the “marriage” since January, but he refuses, saying there’s nothing wrong with him, I’m the one with the issues. I’ve stayed in the marriage because I have two children, however, they are now 19 and 21, and I believe it’s time for me to be happy. I’ve tried to provide a happy home for my kids, putting my happiness aside, but now, like you said, it’s time to put myself first. This is what I’m seeing my therapist for……I seem to be having a very difficult time doing that. I know what I want, which is a separation, but why can’t I do it??

Thank you for your reply, it really meant alot to me.

Debby

]]> By: Patrick http://patrickwanis.com/blog/let-go-of-the-past/comment-page-1/#comment-325 Patrick Sun, 08 Jun 2008 17:50:30 +0000 http://patrickwanis.com/blog/index.php/2008/06/04/let-go-of-the-past/#comment-325 Dear Debby,

it’s hard for me to give you a clear answer without knowing the details and circumstances of your situation. If you mean that the person or persons in your life refuse to change and it is hurting you and destroying you or making you unhappy, then yes, you might need to let go of that part of your present life and break free from it. There are times when you have to put yourself first, when the situation is much too unhealthy for you. Please read the newsletters before this one also.
Let me know how it goes!
Patrick

]]> By: Debby http://patrickwanis.com/blog/let-go-of-the-past/comment-page-1/#comment-320 Debby Thu, 05 Jun 2008 23:48:59 +0000 http://patrickwanis.com/blog/index.php/2008/06/04/let-go-of-the-past/#comment-320 How do you let go of the past, when it continues to happen over and over again…….still…..in the present? is it time to let go of that part of your present life and break free from it?

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