The following is a  transcript of Russ Morley, host of 850 WFTL radio interviewing Celebrity Life Coach and Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis Ph.D. for insights and analysis about the Mel Gibson meltdown – an unauthenticated recording between Mel Gibson and girlfriend Oksana Grigorieva believed to have been recorded 5 months prior and where Mel Gibson makes sexist and racist remarks and threatens violence and death. Patrick Wanis PhD analyses the Mel Gibson audio recording and highlights irregularities and unanswered questions about Mel Gibson and Oksana Grigorieva.

Please click here to read why, based on this audio recording, Oksana Grigorieva does not demonstrate behavior or psychological  symptoms of a battered woman: http://patrickwanis.com/blog/index.php/2010/07/19/battered-womans-syndrome/  

 Listen to this interview at:

http://patrickwanis.com/Mel_Gibson_meltdown.asp

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 [Music: Foreigner – “Cold as Ice”]

Russ Morley:             I’ll tell you what: If you’ve been listening to the radio or watching TV this week, you have no doubt heard the rantings of Oscar winner and one of Hollywood’s top leading men and directors Mel Gibson as he chastised his former girlfriend, mother of his nine-month-old child, Oksana Grigorieva, for wearing tight clothes and having a boob job. But now, there’s even more recordings that are even more shocking.

[audio played of unauthenticated recording between Mel Gibson and Oksana Gregorieva]

Oksana Grigorieva: Because I’m saving my life and I’m saving daughter’s life. That’s what I’m doing. I don’t give a damn about my music and I don’t give a damn about you spending another penny. I’m saving her life.

Mel Gibson:               [Indiscernible]

Oksana Grigorieva: You almost killed us! Did you forget?

Mel Gibson:               (mocks crying)

Oksana Grigorieva: You were hitting a woman with a child in her hands! You – what kind of man is that? Hitting a woman when she’s holding a child in her hands, breaking her teeth twice in the face! What kind of man is that?

Mel Gibson:               Oh, you’re all angry now.

Oksana Grigorieva: You’re going to get to – you know what? You’re going to answer one day. Boy, you’re going to answer.

Mel Gibson:               What, what? What are you …

Oksana Grigorieva: Nothing, nothing. I’m not the one to threaten.

Mel Gibson:               I’m threatening you. I’ll put you in a [Expletive] rose garden, you [Expletive]. You understand that? Because I’m capable of it. You understand that? Get a [Expletive] restraining order. For what? What are you going to get a restraining order for? For me being drunk and disorderly? For hitting you? For what?

Russ Morley:             What? Wow! Alcohol and sanity. What? Joining us this  morning, Dr. Patrick Wanis, Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior Expert based out of Miami. Dr. Wanis, man, I mean, this is unsettling at least.

Patrick Wanis:          Well, you know, it’s really hard; I don’t know where to start because there are so many elements to this story and to this incident. First, you need to say the obvious, that there is no justification whatsoever to make any sort of threats against, well, another human being, let alone a woman. That would be the first point. The second thing is: it’s obvious that Mel Gibson has had a drinking problem for a long, long time, going back many, many years. In fact, he started drinking when he became 13 years of age. He just moved to Australia from New York at age 12. Ever since then, he has had a drinking problem. I don’t know if he had a drinking problem in his teens but he has had a drinking problem most of his life.

During Lethal Weapon 2, the director said how shocked he was when he realized that Mel Gibson was drinking five pints of beer every morning – for breakfast.

  Continue reading “Mel Gibson – racism, death threats, money?” »

The following is a transcript of an exclusive interview and conversation between Patrick Wanis PhD and Janet and Chris Attwood. To listen to the interview, click here: http://patrickwanis.com/thepassiontest.asp

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Dr. Patrick Wanis:   This is Patrick Wanis, Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert and Clinical Hypnotherapist, PhD.

So when I say the word “passion,” what comes to your mind? For most people, passion tends to create the thought or emotion of some link to a physical experience, something maybe hot and heavy in the bedroom.

But what is passion? Well, Chris and Janet Attwood are the authors of the New York Times Bestseller “The Passion Test: The Effortless Path to Discovering Your Destiny.” They’ve also helped thousands of people around the world to find their passion. So let’s find out “What is passion?” A big hello to Chris and Janet.

Chris Attwood:        Hi, Patrick, so great to be with you.

Janet Attwood:        Yeah. Thank you for having us.

Dr. Patrick Wanis:   Well, I’m excited to hear your message. So before I tell people a lot more about you, because there’s a lot to be said about both Janet and Chris and it’s good, I want to ask the first question. What is passion?

Chris Attwood:        It’s a great question. We love that question. Thank you, Patrick. And as you said, most people tend to associate the word “passion” with some feeling that they have. And we would differentiate a little bit, you know, and we would say that feeling that you have is the feeling of being passionate. And so you what is it that makes you or causes you to feel passionate about something? And that’s what we refer to as your passion.

So your passions from our perspective are the things that you love most, the things that you care most deeply about, the things that matter most to you in your life. When your life is connected to those things then you have that emotional feeling that you were talking about…

Dr. Patrick Wanis:   “When you connected to the things that really matter to you now.” It’s interesting you say that, Chris, because often when I meet people, I’d like to ask the question, at some point in the conversation, particularly a woman, “What is your passion?” And the reason I say that is because the first thought that women will come up with is, “Are you asking me a sexual question?” Then when I say, “No, I’m not talking about sex at all,” then they become even more confused, men and women, because they’re not sure or have almost no idea of what is their passion.

Continue reading “The Passion Test” »

The following is a transcript of Siobhan McFadyen, News Correspondent for Grazia Magazine, interviewing Celebrity Life Coach and Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis Ph.D. about Sex and the City  – the two movies (Sex and the City and Sex and the City 2 – SATC 2) and the TV Series – about its cultural significance and impact on women. How has Sex and the City affected, changed or shaped women and why? And does Sex and The City intimidate men?

You can also read the controversial press release by Patrick Wanis PhD: Sex and the City – how it emasculated men – http://patrickwanis.com/blog/index.php/2010/06/01/satc2-how-it-emasculated-men/

Siobhan:                    Sex and the City. Why do you think so many people or women have come to love the show? What is the attraction for women and why are they so fascinated by it over the years? What draws women to it and why is it so successful?

Patrick Wanis:          I think Sex and the City is extremely successful for many, many reasons. First: because it represents women’s sexual freedom. Second: because it exposes in a very free and proud way not just women’s sexuality but the fact that women can be just as sexual as men; women can have just as big a sex drive as men and that it also freely exposes the different perspectives of sexuality that women have.

For example, you have the eldest character in the movie and the TV series (Samantha Jones played by Kim Cattral) who proudly says via her actions and sometimes her words, I’m about conquering men; I’m about using sex as power, and; I enjoy it. Then you have the character of Carrie Bradshaw (played by Sarah Jessica Parker) who seems so completely lost and is always looking for real love and looking for the ideal relationship. Then there is Charlotte York (played by Kristin Davis) who is prudish and is seeking emotional love and finally; Miranda Hobbes (played by Cynthia Nixon) who is the career-minded cynic of relationships (the voice of reason), who is a Type A, a workaholic and wants to win men over via her personality rather than her sexiness.

Thus, each character represents a different aspect of not just women but women’s sexuality and the significance of sex to them. Another key aspect of the movie and TV show’s appeal is that it also reflects the bonding, the friendship and what we call in psychology and mental health, the “befriending” that women have and engage in; women turn to each other when they’re under stress, when they have a problem, when they want to discuss something and when they need a sounding board. Almost ninety-nine percent of the time, women turn to other women before they’ll turn to a man.

Siobhan:                    That’s true. Why is that?

  Continue reading “SATC – how it changed men and women” »

The following is a transcript of Russ Morley, host of 850 WFTL radio interviewing Celebrity Life Coach and Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis Ph.D. about Wayne Treacy, a 15-year old Deerfield Beach High School student, who has pleaded not guilty to a charge of attempted first-degree murder and is being tried as an adult. Wayne Treacy allegedly beat 15-year old Josie Lou Ratley and broke every bone in her body.

Russ:                          I appreciate you having us on this morning, 8:13 on this Monday, May 17, about 78 degrees in South Florida.

On Friday, we learned that a few hours before the savage beating at Deerfield Beach Middle School back on March 17, the teen charged in the attack, told friends via text messages that he planned to snap Josie Lou Ratley’s neck and stomp on her skull to kill her for badmouthing his dead brother. Here’s a quote from one of the texts, “Snap her neck then stomp her skull is the fastest way I could think of.” Another choice one was, “This bitch ran her mouth about my bro who she knew was dead, now I want her head.” And he got it he broke every bone in her face, still undergoing therapy as of this morning. We’re not really sure of the condition of this young lady ‑ this 15-year-old Josie Lou Ratley. But what is his test – I think there was some plea of temporary insanity. He said he’s not guilty of this crime. What does that say about that and what does it say about this young man?

Joining us this morning is Human Behavior expert and Celebrity Life Coach, Dr. Patrick Wanis from Miami. Dr. Wanis, good morning.

Dr. Patrick Wanis:    Good morning, Russ.

Russ:                          You’ve had a chance to look at some of these texts out there. What do you see about this Wayne Treacy? What do you see about this kid?

Dr. Patrick Wanis:    I think the first thing that is definitely clear is that this is a clear case of revenge. He’s seeking revenge. He’s seeking what he believes to be justice. It’s going to be very hard for the attorney to prove either insanity or temporary insanity because the first thing is: he has to prove that the defendant was diminished in mental capacity. That means that he couldn’t understand the nature or quality of his behavior. And second: that the defendant couldn’t differentiate between basic ideas of right or wrong when he was actually beating her. That’s a very hard thing to prove because if you look at the actual chronological list of events…as early as 11:30 in the morning, Wayne Treacy is saying, “I’m going to hurt someone and I know I’m going to jail for it.” One of his texts just says, “I’m going to jail for murder.” That’s before he’d done something. That’s three hours before. Then he proceeds, throughout the day intermittently to say, “I’m going to hurt her. I’m going to do this. I’m going to do that.” Then after he does it, he says, “I’m going to jail because I tried to kill someone.”

  Continue reading “Teen beating – insanity or revenge?” »

The following is a transcript of Siobhan McFadyen, News Correspondent for Grazia Australia, interviewing Celebrity Life Coach and Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis Ph.D. about actress Sandra Bullock and husband Jesse James and the article from People Magazine revealing Sandra Bullock’s adoption of a boy which she hid from the world for almost 3 months. How is Sandra Bullock handling the scandal surrounding the betrayal and multiple affairs of her husband Jesse James? She has responded with calm, dignity, maturity and forgiveness. But if Sandra was able to hide her adoption, then what else might she be hiding – her real feelings and pain?

Siobhan McFadyen:

Given that her marriage has just broken down in the past four weeks, can you spot the unusual comments or behaviors, or give us some insights into how she might be feeling.

Patrick Wanis PhD:

My first initial reaction is that there are only two possibilities here: either she’s in denial of the real pain she’s feeling, or it’s been a very carefully orchestrated response to protect her image; keeping in mind her image is that she’s America’s Sweetheart; she’s a lady; she’s elegant; she’s sophisticated; she’s classy, she’s dignified; and therefore, she would never show extreme emotion. She would never show any anger, bitterness, resentment, shame, humiliation, condemnation or blame.

But we must look at Sandra Bullock’s response: she seems to have already forgiven Jesse James for the multiple affairs, and although she has filed for divorce, Sandra has hinted at some sort of reconciliation. Sandra Bullock  now describes her relationship with Jesse James as “a bittersweet one, one of new understanding, one of forgiveness, one of support for his recovery.” Sandra also says: “I don’t know how our paths will intersect in the future…The things I hold most dear are the things that could not have happened without Jesse.”

Now, I said that the first possibility was that she’s in denial. There is a six-step process that we all go through when we experience a loss, when we are grieving.

1. Denial
2. Anger
3. Bargaining
4. Depression
5. Acceptance
6. Hope

  Continue reading “Sandra Bullock & grieving” »

The following is a transcript of Diego Rubio from the Colombian magazine Semana, interviewing Celebrity Life Coach and Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis Ph.D. about actress Gabourey Sidibe, her portrayal of Precious and whether or not Hollywood and the public can truly accept a 350-pound obese woman and actress.

Diego Rubio:       This article is about Miss Sidibe. You said that you lived in West Africa. How was that? 

Patrick Wanis:    It was a great experience. I lived in The Gambia. And The Gambia is almost completely surrounded by Senegal, except on the west where it meets the Atlantic Ocean. The country of The Gambia is a very small vertical shape that runs along The Gambia River.

Diego Rubio:       Yeah.

Patrick Wanis:    So, I knew a lot of Senegalese people and they’re very strong people. They’re very emotional. They’re very passionate people; quite different from The Gambian people who are very quiet, shy and very peaceful.

Diego Rubio:       So people from Senegal are like this young actress? 

Patrick Wanis:    Well, she was born in Brooklyn but her father was from Senegal.

Diego Rubio:       Yeah.

Patrick Wanis:    And her mother is a gospel singer. The other thing that’s very interesting is that her father left, I think, when she was quite young, which I’m sure had an effect on her as well.

Diego Rubio:       Yeah. But he left her or did they just divorce – her father and mother?  

Patrick Wanis:    I use the expression “he left her” because when a husband and wife divorce, the child subconsciously believes that the parent left them, abandoned them or deserted them.

                In fact, just today, I’ve started working with a new client who is suddenly having panic and anxiety attacks. She doesn’t know why but we uncovered that when she was 11, her father had cheated on her mother.

Diego Rubio:       Yeah? 

Patrick Wanis:    And the child then also thinks, “My father betrayed my mother. He also betrayed me because I loved him and trusted him, too.”  So what I’m saying to you is that there is an effect; whatever your parents do, will affect you in one way or another. And when parents divorce, the child often thinks, “Maybe, there is something wrong with me.”  

Diego Rubio:       Yeah. And you say that was very important for her, like how do you think this affected her and the way she reacts to life and to being famous right now? 

Patrick Wanis:    It’s not something that’s obvious because this woman, Gabourey Sidibe has a beautiful soul, a beautiful spirit. She has lots of outward confidence. She seems very comfortable in her skin. But, she’s also 350 pounds.

Continue reading “Precious – Gabby and fat acceptance” »

The following is a transcript of Diego Rubio from the Colombian magazine Semana, interviewing Celebrity Life Coach and Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis Ph.D. about the reasons many gay artists choose to try and hide from the public their sexual orientation.

Diego Rubio: Even in the 21st Century, it seems that it’s still difficult for an artist to accept publicly his or her homosexuality. Why?

Patrick Wanis PhD: The best way to answer this question is to consider the example of Ricky Martin, who recently came out and told the world he’s gay by saying “I am proud to say that I am a fortunate homosexual man.” Now, the interesting thing about this is that obviously, within the music industry, many people already knew that Ricky Martin is gay, and there are many people in the public who already suspected the same thing. After all he adopted two children but on his own – no partner – male or femaile.

But why did Ricky Martin keep it quiet and hidden for so long? For two reasons: One, in the music business, more so than in Hollywood, being gay seems to be frowned upon. Second, being gay is particularly frowned upon or a bad thing within the Latin community. The same applies to the African-American or the Black community. Homosexuality is not something that’s welcomed nor accepted. Continue reading “Why gay artists are still hiding” »

The following is the full transcript of Gil Kaufman from MTV news interviewing Celebrity Life Coach and Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis Ph.D. about the two confrontations and run-ins between Ryan Seacrest and Simon Cowell, live on Television, on American Idol March 16 and 17, 2010

You can read Gil’s MTV article here:

http://www.mtv.com/news/articles/1634222/20100318/story.jhtml

Gil:  Hi Patrick.  How are you? 

Patrick Wanis:  Great. 

Gil:  So you saw the show?   

Patrick Wanis:  Yes. And I wanted to begin by adding some info that I wrote about Simon Cowell last year around his 50th birthday

Gil:  Oh, really? 

Patrick Wanis:  Yeah, in the Globe, I was talking about him still being like a little boy who never got that real approval or acceptance.

Just days before his 50th birthday, Simon Cowell wrote his younger self a letter, like a long letter.  Do you remember that? 

Gil:  No.  Vaguely, yeah. 

Patrick Wanis:  Well, he wrote himself a long letter and he describes himself in his 30s and early 40s as “shallow, reckless and cocky.”  In the letter which he published online,  he wrote to himself “You feel that everyone is laughing at you behind your back… Do you want to know something Simon? That’s because they are?”  And he wrote that about something that happened a long time ago, back in the 80s.

He also wrote about being this little kid that is “peering over a garden wall.” There was a next door neighbor, a movie bigwig, who had a party featuring Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton and Simon Cowell was sort of wishing to himself, “I want to be like that.  I want to be at that party.”  And then, of course, when he turns 50, he brags about his star studded party. 

Gil:  Right. 

Patrick Wanis:  And I’m giving you that background to say that Simon Cowell is a guy who definitely has a very powerful ego, who’s almost narcissistic.  Deep down he wants everyone to love and accept him, to approve him, to be accepted by the celebrities. And the way that he responds to people with his harsh criticism is also the way that he responds to himself:  He’s very critical of himself; very, very critical of himself because deeper inside, there’s insecurity and a feeling that he’s not good enough. And, he covers it by attacking everyone else. 

Continue reading “Clash of the egos: Simon Cowell & Ryan Seacrest” »

The following is a transcript of Diego Rubio from the Colombian magazine Semana, interviewing Celebrity Life Coach and Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis Ph.D. about the reasons people are obsessed with celebrities, how celebrities are created and branded, why we worship celebrities but also enjoy tearing them down, and; the way that the media affects our thinking & beliefs and leads us to conform.

Diego Rubio:            The first thing I would like to know is about Brangelina. Brad and Angelina are kind of a brand, and they are so important for the entertainment industry; everybody is so obsessed with them. Why? And what is it about this specific couple that gets all the attention of the public?

Dr. Patrick Wanis     Well, there are two key points and what I refer to as “levels.” The first point or level is that within the entertainment industry, there are people that are always looking to create a brand, something bigger than life, something bigger than the rest of us. And what I mean by that is, Brad was once voted as the world’s sexiest man alive and Angelina was also recognized as one of the most beautiful women alive and one of the most sexiest women. So when two powerful people like this come together you have the sexiest man and the most beautiful and sexiest woman, then the public, in its mind is creating something that is a symbol of perfection. It also becomes a brand where we look up to them and we all wish, we all dream, we all aspire to be like them. Just like “Oh, I wish I could be as handsome as Brad; I wish I could be as beautiful as Angelina; I wish I could be that couple.” But the concept and identification always begins within the media. The media creates that and what I mean by the media is that today more than ever there is so much competition to get the attention of the public because there were so many magazines and media outlets competing against each other…

Diego Rubio:            Within the media you are talking about?

Continue reading “Why we are obsessed with celebrities” »

 The following is an expanded  transcript of Russ Morley, host of 850 WFTL radio interviewing Celebrity Life Coach and Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis Ph.D. about Tiger Woods televised apology and The Fame Factor.

Click here to read the first interview Patrick Wanis gave to Russ Morley Dec. 11, 2009: Tiger Woods – a sex addict? http://patrickwanis.com/blog/index.php/2009/12/11/tiger-woods-a-sex-addict/

Click here to read Patrick Wanis’ Success Newsletter: Lessons from Tiger Woods:

http://patrickwanis.com/blog/index.php/2009/12/16/lessons-from-tiger-woods/

Click here to read the interview Patrick Wanis gave to Russ Morley Dec. 22, 2009: Tiger Woods – a God complex or an inferiority complex? http://patrickwanis.com/blog/index.php/2009/12/22/tiger-woods-god-complex-or-inferiority-complex/

Click here to read the interview Patrick Wanis gave to Russ Morley January 16, 2010: Tiger Woods in sex rehab and claims that his wife Elin is taking him back. http://patrickwanis.com/blog/index.php/2010/01/26/tiger-woods-wife-takes-him-back/

Tiger Woods:  I want to say to each of you, simply and directly; I am deeply sorry for my irresponsible and selfish behavior I engaged in.

I know people want to find out how I could be so selfish and so foolish.  People want to know how I could have done these things to my wife, Elin, and to my children.

And while I have always tried to be a private person, there are some things I want to say.  Elin and I have started the process of discussing the damaged caused by my behavior.  As Elin pointed out to me, my real apology to her will not come in the form of words.  It will come from my behavior over time. 

Russ Morley: So, I got to say it.  I got a little moist, well, a little bit, this left eye over here, right—right in the corner, just a little –ah, maybe it was just something in my eye.  I’m not really sure. 

Joining us this morning is Doctor Patrick Wanis, Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior Expert.

Doctor Wanis, sincere – I mean he got to me.  He – he got me right here, sir.

Patrick Wanis:  Yeah, I heard you.  You said that you got moist.

Russ Morley: Just a little bit.  A little tear formed over there.

Patrick Wanis: All right.

Russ Morley:  Did you buy the sincerity?

  Continue reading “Tiger Woods – the apology & The Fame Factor” »