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You’re wrong about the Ray Rice video

Thursday, September 11th, 2014

 

The media got it wrong about the Ray Rice video

The media got it wrong about the Ray Rice video

Commentators everywhere in the media have been hailing the video showing Ray Rice punching his wife as the video that changes everything, claiming this warrants extreme punishment of Ray Rice and the NFL.

 

But they got it wrong, and their response reflects immaturity, sensationalism and a complete lack of understanding and insights into domestic violence, abuse and compassion.

 

Suddenly commentators believe that this second video is so hideous that the NFL and Rice should be punished further, and so they keep screaming for more blood, and without ever offering a solution to the problem of domestic violence.

 

The real video of concern isn’t the second video of a punch; the real video of concern is the first video which shows how Rice responded to his wife after she was knocked out.

 

The way we have responded to the 2 videos reflects the way we react emotionally instead of seeking a solution along with our complete disregard and unawareness of compassion. Due to our socio-cultural programming and the constant cries of gender inequality, we connect and notice the act of violence by a man against a woman, and, we fail to notice the real crime: Ray Rice might not have been able to control his anger in the moment but he had the opportunity to express compassion and remorse, and he didn’t.

After Janay is knocked unconscious when her head hits the railing, she falls to the ground, and Ray Rice drags her out of the elevator. He doesn’t lift her up; he doesn’t carry her, he drags her. He doesn’t fall to the ground, to his knees and embrace her head in his hands and arms; he doesn’t reveal any guilt over his actions or concern for her wellbeing. He doesn’t cry out “Oh my God, what have I done.” He doesn’t call for help; he quietly and calmly shoos away the security. There is no sign of immediate remorse, guilt, shame or fear for her safety.

 

How is it that all the commentators, including the numerous women who have written op-ed articles about how bad Ray Rice is, couldn’t see where the real issue is?

 

The answer again is that the holier-than-thou commentators who keep harping about Janay Rice as a victim don’t truly view her as a victim; they didn’t really put themselves in Janay Rice’s place, they didn’t truly think about her pain or what she needed after being knocked unconscious.

 

What do the commentators and media want to teach the public? “A real man never hits a woman”?

 

You can never teach that lesson without teaching compassion and a real concern for humans – regardless of gender. Telling children not to harm living things is impotent unless you also teach them why we shouldn’t harm.

 

You can’t have real men or heroes unless you teach and instill in everyone love, compassion, and the sanctity and preciousness of life!

 

Patrick Wanis PhD is a Human Behavior Expert and celebrity life coach
Follow him @Behavior_Expert and read more www.patrickwanis.com

Read more about the 10 reasons women stay in abusive relationships 

 

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LeAnn Rhimes – Another wicked stepmother?

Tuesday, July 22nd, 2014

 

Behavior Expert & Life Coach

July 22, 2014

 

 

Pitch – LeAnn Rhimes – another wicked stepmother?

Is LeAnn Rhime’s decision to do a reality TV show an example of a step-mother turning wicked by setting out to punish the ex-wife? It certainly looks that way, says one behavior expert.

“LeAnn Rhimes is blatantly using her new Vh1 TV show to manipulate, tease, mock, humiliate and disparage her husband’s ex wife Brandi Glanville” says Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis PhD. “And this is a common occurrence by many stepmothers, who still remain jealous and threatened by the ex-wife. Despite the fact that Rhimes and her husband Eddie Cibrian both cheated on their spouses, Rhimes is intent on stepping on Cibrian’s ex-wife Brandi Glanville as she references tabloid rumors in her show.”

“Glanville and Rimes have been in massive Twitter fights and now Rhimes wants to really hurt Glanville by rubbing it in her face that she and Cibrian are married and ‘happily ever after’” says Dr. Wanis. “But that behavior reeks of the opposite – Rhimes is jealous, insecure and threatened by Glanvile. This is particularly common when the step mother was the ‘other woman’ – the mistress. When a relationship begins with both people cheating on their spouses, their future together can only be doomed because their foundation consists of lies, deceit and betrayal, and thus, they will never be able to fully trust each other – they will always be wondering when the other partner is going to cheat.”

“LeAnn & Eddie” is a new TV reality show on Vh1 about the inside life of LeAnn Rhimes and husband Eddie Cibrian.

Wanis predicts they will suffer the fate of almost all of the couples that indulge in reality TV shows: “I call it the curse of the reality show – with few exceptions, every married couple who has their own reality show ends in divorce!”

TALKING POINTS

Step mothers:

  • Often use the children against the ex-wife

  • Fail to understand the situation they married into is an ‘existing family’ and don’t understand that they’re not the center of it

  • Act as if the children belong to them and feel the need to ‘mother’ them

  • Don’t hold back their criticism of the children, which are really directed at the mother

  • Often cocky enough to believe then can do a better job than the biological mother

  • Use the children to spite the mother

  • Compete with the biological mother

  • Don’t realize THEY are the outsider

  • Mentality on Facebook seems to be same across the board – The stepmothers see themselves as victims of the biological mom. They think they married the prize and that the bio mom hasn’t ‘let go’ of the relationship with their husband

  • Often manipulate money and payment to the former spouse

  • Should understand ex-wives often know the ‘real truth’ about her former husbands

Patrick Wanis Ph.D.
Celebrity LIfe Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & SRTT Therapist
www.patrickwanis.com

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Patrick Wanis PhD helps people rapidly change their behavior. As a Human Behavior & Relationship Expert, Wanis has developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is now teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. Major news and media outlets worldwide consult Wanis for expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human motivation, communication, body language, persuasion and women’s issues. CNN.com turned to him for his specialized insights and expertise when Michael Jackson died and the BBC turned to him when Whitney Houston died. Over five million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish. www.patrickwanis.com

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Hollywood is the molester of children

Tuesday, January 28th, 2014
Hollywood the molester of children

“Is there any childhood star that Hollywood doesn’t abuse and destroy?”

Hollywood is like the molester of children, according to a human behavior expert.

 

“Is there any childhood star that Hollywood doesn’t abuse and destroy?” asks Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis PhD.

 

“Justin Bieber, Lindsay Lohan and Miley Cyrus are just recent examples of the way Hollywood grooms, corrupts, taints and destroys all of its childhood stars” says Dr. Wanis.

 

“Justin Bieber was arrested for drunk driving and resisting arrest just blocks from my home in Miami; Where is this child’s father? Turns out he is a bad role model. A mother cannot raise a son alone. Bieber’s mother gave birth to him as a teenager, suffered from substance abuse and raised him as a single mother; she says ‘pray for him.’”

 

“A mother cannot be expected to become the role model or mentor for a boy. A mother cannot leave a child alone in Hollywood because it is like leaving a child abandoned on the street as open prey.”

 

“What is the difference between Jerry Sandusky using and abusing boys for his own pleasure and Hollywood doing the same thing to its childhood stars? Ultimately, both victims are scarred for life and their lives are often completely destroyed – becoming addicted to drugs, alcohol, suffering from depression and mental disorders, and losing all purpose and meaning in life.”

 

Finally, Wanis says “Bieber is 19, with a bad role model – his father was present during all of the trouble in Miami – he was a part of it. Recall, Britney Spears’ life was turned around by her father! Bieber’s father is like Miley’s dad and obviously wants to be friends with Justin instead of being a dad to him.”

 

 

Talking points:

* What happened to Bieber’s Christian roots? The same thing that happened to Miley Cyrus.

* Bieber and Miley’s dads want to be best friends to their children instead of being a dad

* Some of Hollywood’s childhood victims:

Freddie Prinze – Committed suicide by shooting himself in the head at age 22

River phoenix – Died of a heroin and cocaine overdose at age 23

Brad Renfro – Found dead in his LA apartment at age 25

Andrew Koenig – committed suicide

 

 

**** Originally from Australia, Patrick Wanis Ph.D., is an Author, Expert in Human Behavior & Relationships and creator of SRTT Therapy. Wanis has appeared on FOX News, MSNBC, HLN, Extra, Issues with Jane Velez Mitchell, TruTV’s In Session, the Montel Williams Show, Mike and Juliet, Cosmo, Rolling Stone, InTouch Weekly, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Dating on Demand, E! TV, Vh1, CNN.com, MSN.com, Date.com, Matchmaker.com, NY Daily Mail, NY Post, Vogue Australia, FHM, etc. WGN Chicago and Syndicated TV show, “The Daily Buzz” anointed him “The Woman Expert” and FOX News pronounced him “A voice for women.” CNN.com turned to Wanis for expert insights and analysis when Michael Jackson died. Over five million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish. www.patrickwanis.com

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Petraeus – Only selfish women cheat

Tuesday, November 13th, 2012
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Paula Broadwell accused of an affair with CIA Director David Petraeus

“Women that cheat with married men are selfish”, says Los Angeles based Human Behavior & Relationship Expert, Patrick Wanis PhD.

 

“Women are seduced by the aphrodisiac of power and powerful men” says Dr. Wanis. “Power can take many forms – money, wealth, influence, social status, fame and so forth. Women in relationships often cheat because they feel emotionally invisible in the relationship. However, women who choose to cheat with married men are extremely selfish. They care not about the consequences for the man and his world since the cheating woman is rarely held accountable or blamed for the affair – only the married, powerful and famous man is blamed. The cheating woman does not care whether or not the affair destroys a family, children or the man’s career. And in the case of CIA Director David Petraeus – decorated four-star Army general who once ran the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan- it seems his mistress Paula Broadwell did not care whether or not it negatively impacts the potential security of a nation” says Dr. Wanis.

 

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CIA Director David Petraeus resigns after an affair with Paula Broadwell

“The cheating woman only cares about satisfying her own needs and desires – conquering the powerful man, taking him away from another woman, tasting the power & glamour, boosting her own ego by the attention she receives from the powerful man or using him as a means to further her career or spear her into the limelight. Hedge fund analyst Danielle Chiesi had an affair with Robert Moffat, Senior VP of IBM, and used him to gave her valuable information which destroyed his career at IBM and put him in prison for six months for insider trading.”

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Tom Cruise & Katie Holmes’ divorce – clashing values over children

Tuesday, July 3rd, 2012
Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes divorce clashing values over children

Tom Cruise & Katie Holmes’ divorce – clashing values over children

“It’s one of the major causes of arguments in a marriage – how to raise the children. And now, Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes might be the most famous example of how clashing values always result in divorce” according to Los Angeles based Human Behavior & Relationship Expert, Patrick Wanis PhD.

 

“Katie Holmes is Catholic and Tom Cruise is a major proponent for the Church of Scientology. And it’s been rumored that Katie is divorcing Tom to protect their daughter Suri from being sent off to an intensive Scientology camp” says Dr. Wanis. “Relationships change after children enter the picture with less time for sex and each other, but as new research reveals, the major arguments begin over how the children should be raised.”

 

“In fact, an interesting census of British parents was released today by parenting website Yano.co.uk revealing that the number one cause of arguments is not money but rather children – sixty-one percent of arguments are about parenting style.”

 

“Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes’ differences about the way their child should be raised is a very common problem amongst parents” says Wanis. “Parents often clash about the discipline, education, clothing, and religion of their children.”

 

“The new Yano.co.uk survey reveals that men are more likely than women to argue with their partners about parenting styles. Thus, it’s critical that parents share the same core values and be united about how the child will be raised. If not, the marriage suffers and then the children ultimately suffer when the family breaks up and the parents divorce” says Dr. Wanis.

 

“I believe a happy marriage must begin with the same core values and compatible personality types, communication styles, conflict-resolution styles and religious beliefs. When the spouses begin by putting their love and marriage first, and establishing the same vision for the children, then the marriage can evolve and grow as a happy, loving relationship offering the security of a great role model and foundation for the children. That’s what was missing in Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes’ marriage, and Suri, their daughter, will now suffer from a broken family” concludes Dr. Wanis.

 

Potential talking points

 

* Three key causes of arguments in marriages – children, money and sex

* Significance of core values in a marriage and relationships

* Yano.co.uk’s survey results – children change the marriage

* Celebrity parents face greater pressure because of public opinion and public image

* Parents need to focus on the health of their marriage first which then creates a healthy child

 

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What if Zimmerman isn’t racist?

Wednesday, March 28th, 2012

This is a press release; to Read the full article by Patrick Wanis PhD published on FoxNews.com here:
http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2012/03/29/what-if-zimmerman-wasnt-motivated-by-race/

Also read the article by Patrick Wanis PhD “Lessons from an alleged hate crime”:
http://patrickwanis.com/blog/lessons-alleged-hate-crime/

 

What if Zimmerman isnt racist

What if Zimmerman isn’t racist?

What if the masses got it wrong and George Zimmerman who killed black teenager Trayvon Martin isn’t a racist?

 

One expert claims that Zimmerman’s real motivations may have been repressed anger, power, control, and a desire for significance, meaning and recognition; Zimmerman and his wife mentored two black children.

 

Los Angeles based Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis PhD says “When Zimmerman chose to pursue Trayvon Martin against the directive of the 911 dispatcher, he became the aggressor and the hunter. And his real motivations may have been anger, ego and a desire for power. Zimmerman who was a victim of a criminal assault himself when he was 17, was charged at age 20 with resisting a police officer and he had to undergo an alcohol education program. His ex-fiancee was also granted a civil restraining order against him for alleged domestic violence. These are examples of anger-driven behavior.”

 

“When a person believes that he or she lacks significance, feeling powerless or invisible, he turns to extreme measures to be noticed, to feel powerful and meaningful and to standout”, says Dr. Wanis. “Zimmerman clearly sought power and justice beyond being a volunteer community watch commander; he wanted to become a law enforcement officer – he had taken a 14-week class at the Seminole County Sheriff’s Office. But his choice to chase Martin reflects ego, anger and possibly the corruption of power and responsibility he had been given. Did Zimmerman believe he had total dominion over his gated neighborhood? Did he believe that he could enforce the law, judge people or pursue them based on his own judgment, thus ignoring his only role as neighborhood watch volunteer commander – to report suspicious behavior and not to take power into his own hands?”

 

 

**** Originally from Australia, Patrick Wanis Ph.D., is an Author, Expert in Human Behavior & Relationships and creator of SRTT Therapy. Wanis has appeared on FOX News, MSNBC, Extra, Issues with Jane Velez Mitchell, TruTV’s In Session, the Montel Williams Show, Mike and Juliet, Cosmo, Rolling Stone, InTouch Weekly, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Dating on Demand, E! TV, Vh1, CNN.com, MSN.com, Date.com, Matchmaker.com, NY Daily Mail, NY Post, Vogue Australia, FHM, etc. WGN Chicago and Syndicated TV show, “The Daily Buzz” anointed him “The Woman Expert” and FOX News pronounced him “A voice for women.” CNN.com turned to Wanis for expert insights and analysis when Michael Jackson died. Over five million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish. www.patrickwanis.com

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Whitney Houston was warned

Saturday, February 11th, 2012
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Whitney Houston suffered from addiction for years. And her older brother Michael Houston admitted to Oprah that it was he who introduced her to Cocaine in the 1980s – before she met Bobby Brown

Whitney Houston’s tragic death was forecast 2 years ago by an expert who warned Whitney would die within 5 years unless she made immediate drastic life changes. Human Behavior Expert Patrick Wanis PhD was quoted in the National Enquirer pleading to Whitney to stop her erratic behavior and take care of herself physically, mentally and emotionally.

 

“With Whitney’s addictive personality, along with her poor eating habits, a toxic 15-year marriage to ex-husband Bobby Brown, the 2003 death of her father, stalled career and rocky relationship with teenage daughter Bobbi Kristina, the odds are stacked against her”, Dr. Wanis ominously warned in March 2010.

 

While the world awaits the exact causes of her death, Dr. Wanis who also works with addicts says “Whitney had a history of crack cocaine and booze binges which damage the liver and cardiovascular system, thus setting her up for a potential heart attack or stroke. Whitney said in 2002 that ‘The biggest devil is me’ and every addict struggles with the demons within – just like Amy Winehouse did. And In the same way that the devil is the personification of evil and the enemy of God and humankind, so too is addiction an enemy of humankind stealing so much talent and destroying so many precious lives.”

 

 

**** Originally from Australia, Patrick Wanis Ph.D., is an Author, Expert in Human Behavior & Relationships and creator of SRTT Therapy. Wanis has appeared on FOX News, MSNBC, Extra, Issues with Jane Velez Mitchell, TruTV’s In Session, the Montel Williams Show, Mike and Juliet, Cosmo, Rolling Stone, InTouch Weekly, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Dating on Demand, E! TV, Vh1, CNN.com, MSN.com, Date.com, Matchmaker.com, NY Daily Mail, NY Post, Vogue Australia, FHM, etc. WGN Chicago and Syndicated TV show, “The Daily Buzz” anointed him “The Woman Expert” and FOX News pronounced him “A voice for women.” CNN.com turned to Wanis for expert insights and analysis when Michael Jackson died. Over five million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish. www.patrickwanis.com

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Why women love bad boys

Wednesday, August 17th, 2011
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Chasing or dating a bad boy almost always turns out bad! So why are women attracted to bad boys? Is it the thrill of the pursuit, the triumph of winning the seemingly unattainable, the female desire to tame the wild man or is it the feeling of security in the midst of a strong, confident and rebellious man?

 

“The answer lies in the difference in genders” says Los Angeles based Human Behavior & Relationship Expert, Dr. Patrick Wanis. “Ultimately, women are nurturers and fall in love with a man’s potential; they want him to grow and change!”

 

Dr. Wanis identifies and reveals the primary motivations:

 

*  Men fall in love with a woman the way she is, hoping she won’t change or even age

*  Women are instinctively nurturers; women fall in love with a man’s potential and try to change him; women expect a man to evolve, grow and change

*  When a woman sees a ‘bad boy,’ she thinks she can turn him into a ‘good boy’ – the desire to tame the wild

*  The boy who is unattainable or off limits also offers some women the thrill-seeking trap of ‘forbidden love’ (think Romeo & Juliet)

* The pursuit of the unattainable or challenging man sparks the Dopamine rush and reward system – anticipatory and emotional excitement that releases feel good chemicals in the body

*  Confident but rebellious men offer women a false sense of security

*  Unresolved emotional and psychological issues can also drive women to pursue bad boys, guarded and emotionally unavailable boys (e..g. low self-esteem, feelings of being unloveable; a woman who fears rejection or intimacy will pursue a man who is not truly available thus offering her an excuse when he flees; a woman who seeks security via control will pursue a man who is dependent on her)

Also read the article where Patrick Wanis PhD answers readers questions and reveals the “Scientific & psychological reasons women love bad boys”: http://patrickwanis.com/blog/scientific-psychological-reasons-women-love-bad-boys/

And watch the interview Patrick Wanis PhD gives to Australia’s The Morning TV Show:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h9lp1gZTgtQ

 

**** Originally from Australia, Patrick Wanis Ph.D., is a Celebrity Life-Coach, Author, Expert in Human Behavior & Relationships and creator of SRTT Therapy with a PhD in Health Psychology. Wanis has appeared on FOX News, MSNBC, Extra, Issues with Jane Velez Mitchell, TruTV’s In Session, the Montel Williams Show, Mike and Juliet, Cosmo, Rolling Stone, InTouch Weekly, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Dating on Demand, E! TV, Vh1, CNN.com, MSN.com, Date.com, Matchmaker.com, NY Daily Mail, NY Post, Vogue Australia, FHM, etc. WGN Chicago and Syndicated TV show, “The Daily Buzz” anointed him “The Woman Expert” and FOX News pronounced him “A voice for women.” CNN.com turned to Wanis for expert insights and analysis when Michael Jackson died. Over five million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish. www.patrickwanis.com

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Stop apologizing for anti-gay remarks

Wednesday, June 29th, 2011
Stop apologizing for anti gay remarks

Stop apologizing for anti gay remarks

“Making people apologize for anti-gay remarks doesn’t change the way they really feel and can create more harm than good” says Los Angeles based Therapist and Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis PhD.

 

“Racism, bigotry, bias and prejudice cannot change by a forced apology” says Dr. Wanis. “Forcing people such as Tracy Morgan, Chris Brown, Cee Lo or others to be fake and give fraudulent apologies to save their career and popularity doesn’t change their beliefs and only encourages people to lie about their real feelings” explains Wanis. “Real change can only occur when we ask people who make offensive remarks to explain the truth behind their feelings, to explain their motivations and hatred so that those beliefs can be addressed.”

 

“Parents make the same mistake and teach their kids to lie about their real feelings when they say things such as ‘Johnny, now apologize to your sister.’ Johnny does, but he is not really sorry! They’re just words he uses. He is angry and resentful that he has to apologize because he doesn’t understand why and he doesn’t feel it. And now he’s taught to lie and to give fake apologies in order to be liked and accepted. The same applies to adults and to public figures: Real change comes from new understanding and new perspectives – not by being forced or intimidated into saying something someone doesn’t truly mean, feel or believe” says Wanis.

 

“And real apologies come from the heart and not from the desire to gain other people’s approval.”

 

“Forced political correctness, counterfeit language and bogus apologies only lead to more hatred and violence. When we suppress and repress our hatred and bigotry without exploring its roots, we simply create more resentment, anger, bitterness, hatred and contempt toward the very thing or people we hated in the first place. Hatred and bigotry of any kind, such as anti-Semitism cannot be eradicated by political correctness, it can only be corrected by discussion and not by silence or more lies with forced artificial or convenient apologies” says Dr. Wanis.

 

“Would you want your partner to say ‘I am sorry and I love you’ if he or she does not mean either one?” asks Dr. Wanis.

 

 

**** Originally from Australia, Patrick Wanis Ph.D., is a Celebrity Life-Coach, Author, Expert in Human Behavior & Relationships and creator of SRTT Therapy with a PhD in Health Psychology. Wanis has appeared on FOX News, MSNBC, Extra, Issues with Jane Velez Mitchell, TruTV’s In Session, the Montel Williams Show, Mike and Juliet, Cosmo, Rolling Stone, InTouch Weekly, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Dating on Demand, E! TV, Vh1, CNN.com, MSN.com, Date.com, Matchmaker.com, NY Daily Mail, NY Post, Vogue Australia, FHM, etc. WGN Chicago and Syndicated TV show, “The Daily Buzz” anointed him “The Woman Expert” and FOX News pronounced him “A voice for women.” CNN.com turned to Wanis for expert insights and analysis when Michael Jackson died. Over five million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish. www.patrickwanis.com

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How a self-help guru brainwashed 3 people to their death

Thursday, June 23rd, 2011

 

Watch: Patrick Wanis PhD on James Ray and the dangers of gurus – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wvMyoFLdQQ0

How a self help guru brainwashed 3 people to their death

How a self-help guru brainwashed 3 people to their death

 

“It’s a timeless formula for brainwashing: convince people that they are lacking something and you are the only one who has the answer’ says Los Angeles based Therapist and Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis PhD.

 

Self-help guru James Arthur Ray was found guilty of 3 counts of negligent manslaughter after three people died in his Sweat Lodge, during his Spiritual Warrior Retreat in Arizona.

 

“James Ray rose to fame and fortune because of his charisma, use of psychological persuasion and the spectacular marketing of the book and movie ‘The Secret’ that featured him while also playing into people’s vulnerabilities and desires for instant gratification” says Dr. Wanis.

 

“James Ray sought out people who were lost, emotionally vulnerable or searching for something and promised them unimaginable rewards – including the experience of transcending death – but tragically, he wasn’t able to deliver on the latter.”

 

“James Ray also used two other secrets of psychological influence: 1) Authority and; 2) Scarcity. Ray built himself as an authority God-like figure and the participants and followers sought his approval and feared his rejection; Ray convinced them that his knowledge and techniques were secrets” says Dr. Wanis. “And after paying $10,000 for the experience of a lifetime, participants believed they were part of the privileged few to access those secrets and they sought Ray’s approval so many of them stayed in the extremely hot tent even as their bodies were entering alarm mode and shutting down.”

 

Finally, Wanis asks “Remember 1978, the Jones Town Massacre when a reverend led 909 people including children to their death? James Ray isn’t the first person to brainwash people or lead them to their death and he won’t be the last: James Ray created his reality the way others before him have – ego, greed, narcissism and lust for power and control.”

 

“Humans have basic needs so it’s not only the weak-minded people get drawn into a cult or get brainwashed” warns Dr. Wanis. “Our emotional needs include significance, attention, a safe, secure environment to mature and develop; an emotional connection to other people; acceptance, a connection to the wider community, and meaning & purpose. And when those needs are not being met, a charismatic man like James Ray appears claiming he is the only one who can help you – he has the secret – but his secret was not spiritual – it was deadly.”

 

 

**** Originally from Australia, Patrick Wanis Ph.D., is a Celebrity Life-Coach, Author, Expert in Human Behavior & Relationships and creator of SRTT Therapy with a PhD in Health Psychology. Wanis has appeared on FOX News, MSNBC, Extra, Issues with Jane Velez Mitchell, TruTV’s In Session, the Montel Williams Show, Mike and Juliet, Cosmo, Rolling Stone, InTouch Weekly, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Dating on Demand, E! TV, Vh1, CNN.com, MSN.com, Date.com, Matchmaker.com, NY Daily Mail, NY Post, Vogue Australia, FHM, etc. WGN Chicago and Syndicated TV show, “The Daily Buzz” anointed him “The Woman Expert” and FOX News pronounced him “A voice for women.” CNN.com turned to Wanis for expert insights and analysis when Michael Jackson died. Over five million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish. www.patrickwanis.com

 

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