Paula Broadwell accused of an affair with CIA Director David Petraeus

“Women that cheat with married men are selfish”, says Los Angeles based Human Behavior & Relationship Expert, Patrick Wanis PhD.

“Women are seduced by the aphrodisiac of power and powerful men” says Dr. Wanis. “Power can take many forms – money, wealth, influence, social status, fame and so forth. Women in relationships often cheat because they feel emotionally invisible in the relationship. However, women who choose to cheat with married men are extremely selfish. They care not about the consequences for the man and his world since the cheating woman is rarely held accountable or blamed for the affair – only the married, powerful and famous man is blamed. The cheating woman does not care whether or not the affair destroys a family, children or the man’s career. And in the case of CIA Director David Petraeus – decorated four-star Army general who once ran the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan- it seems his mistress Paula Broadwell did not care whether or not it negatively impacts the potential security of a nation” says Dr. Wanis.

CIA Director David Petraeus resigns after an affair with Paula Broadwell

“The cheating woman only cares about satisfying her own needs and desires – conquering the powerful man, taking him away from another woman, tasting the power & glamour, boosting her own ego by the attention she receives from the powerful man or using him as a means to further her career or spear her into the limelight. Hedge fund analyst Danielle Chiesi had an affair with Robert Moffat, Senior VP of IBM, and used him to gave her valuable information which destroyed his career at IBM and put him in prison for six months for insider trading.”

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Tom Cruise & Katie Holmes’ divorce – clashing values over children

“It’s one of the major causes of arguments in a marriage – how to raise the children. And now, Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes might be the most famous example of how clashing values always result in divorce” according to Los Angeles based Human Behavior & Relationship Expert, Patrick Wanis PhD.

“Katie Holmes is Catholic and Tom Cruise is a major proponent for the Church of Scientology. And it’s been rumored that Katie is divorcing Tom to protect their daughter Suri from being sent off to an intensive Scientology camp” says Dr. Wanis. “Relationships change after children enter the picture with less time for sex and each other, but as new research reveals, the major arguments begin over how the children should be raised.”

“In fact, an interesting census of British parents was released today by parenting website Yano.co.uk revealing that the number one cause of arguments is not money but rather children – sixty-one percent of arguments are about parenting style.”

“Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes’ differences about the way their child should be raised is a very common problem amongst parents” says Wanis. “Parents often clash about the discipline, education, clothing, and religion of their children.”

“The new Yano.co.uk survey reveals that men are more likely than women to argue with their partners about parenting styles. Thus, it’s critical that parents share the same core values and be united about how the child will be raised. If not, the marriage suffers and then the children ultimately suffer when the family breaks up and the parents divorce” says Dr. Wanis.

“I believe a happy marriage must begin with the same core values and compatible personality types, communication styles, conflict-resolution styles and religious beliefs. When the spouses begin by putting their love and marriage first, and establishing the same vision for the children, then the marriage can evolve and grow as a happy, loving relationship offering the security of a great role model and foundation for the children. That’s what was missing in Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes’ marriage, and Suri, their daughter, will now suffer from a broken family” concludes Dr. Wanis.

Potential talking points

* Three key causes of arguments in marriages – children, money and sex

* Significance of core values in a marriage and relationships

* Yano.co.uk’s survey results – children change the marriage

* Celebrity parents face greater pressure because of public opinion and public image

* Parents need to focus on the health of their marriage first which then creates a healthy child

This is a press release; to Read the full article by Patrick Wanis PhD published on FoxNews.com here:
http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2012/03/29/what-if-zimmerman-wasnt-motivated-by-race/

Also read the article by Patrick Wanis PhD “Lessons from an alleged hate crime”:
http://patrickwanis.com/blog/lessons-alleged-hate-crime/

What if Zimmerman isn’t racist?

What if the masses got it wrong and George Zimmerman who killed black teenager Trayvon Martin isn’t a racist?

One expert claims that Zimmerman’s real motivations may have been repressed anger, power, control, and a desire for significance, meaning and recognition; Zimmerman and his wife mentored two black children.

Los Angeles based Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis PhD says “When Zimmerman chose to pursue Trayvon Martin against the directive of the 911 dispatcher, he became the aggressor and the hunter. And his real motivations may have been anger, ego and a desire for power. Zimmerman who was a victim of a criminal assault himself when he was 17, was charged at age 20 with resisting a police officer and he had to undergo an alcohol education program. His ex-fiancee was also granted a civil restraining order against him for alleged domestic violence. These are examples of anger-driven behavior.”

“When a person believes that he or she lacks significance, feeling powerless or invisible, he turns to extreme measures to be noticed, to feel powerful and meaningful and to standout”, says Dr. Wanis. “Zimmerman clearly sought power and justice beyond being a volunteer community watch commander; he wanted to become a law enforcement officer – he had taken a 14-week class at the Seminole County Sheriff’s Office. But his choice to chase Martin reflects ego, anger and possibly the corruption of power and responsibility he had been given. Did Zimmerman believe he had total dominion over his gated neighborhood? Did he believe that he could enforce the law, judge people or pursue them based on his own judgment, thus ignoring his only role as neighborhood watch volunteer commander – to report suspicious behavior and not to take power into his own hands?”

**** Originally from Australia, Patrick Wanis Ph.D., is an Author, Expert in Human Behavior & Relationships and creator of SRTT Therapy. Wanis has appeared on FOX News, MSNBC, Extra, Issues with Jane Velez Mitchell, TruTV’s In Session, the Montel Williams Show, Mike and Juliet, Cosmo, Rolling Stone, InTouch Weekly, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Dating on Demand, E! TV, Vh1, CNN.com, MSN.com, Date.com, Matchmaker.com, NY Daily Mail, NY Post, Vogue Australia, FHM, etc. WGN Chicago and Syndicated TV show, “The Daily Buzz” anointed him “The Woman Expert” and FOX News pronounced him “A voice for women.” CNN.com turned to Wanis for expert insights and analysis when Michael Jackson died. Over five million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish. www.patrickwanis.com

Whitney Houston suffered from addiction for years. And her older brother Michael Houston admitted to Oprah that it was he who introduced her to Cocaine in the 1980s – before she met Bobby Brown

Whitney Houston’s tragic death was forecast 2 years ago by an expert who warned Whitney would die within 5 years unless she made immediate drastic life changes. Human Behavior Expert Patrick Wanis PhD was quoted in the National Enquirer pleading to Whitney to stop her erratic behavior and take care of herself physically, mentally and emotionally.

“With Whitney’s addictive personality, along with her poor eating habits, a toxic 15-year marriage to ex-husband Bobby Brown, the 2003 death of her father, stalled career and rocky relationship with teenage daughter Bobbi Kristina, the odds are stacked against her”, Dr. Wanis ominously warned in March 2010.

While the world awaits the exact causes of her death, Dr. Wanis who also works with addicts says “Whitney had a history of crack cocaine and booze binges which damage the liver and cardiovascular system, thus setting her up for a potential heart attack or stroke. Whitney said in 2002 that ‘The biggest devil is me’ and every addict struggles with the demons within – just like Amy Winehouse did. And In the same way that the devil is the personification of evil and the enemy of God and humankind, so too is addiction an enemy of humankind stealing so much talent and destroying so many precious lives.”

**** Originally from Australia, Patrick Wanis Ph.D., is an Author, Expert in Human Behavior & Relationships and creator of SRTT Therapy. Wanis has appeared on FOX News, MSNBC, Extra, Issues with Jane Velez Mitchell, TruTV’s In Session, the Montel Williams Show, Mike and Juliet, Cosmo, Rolling Stone, InTouch Weekly, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Dating on Demand, E! TV, Vh1, CNN.com, MSN.com, Date.com, Matchmaker.com, NY Daily Mail, NY Post, Vogue Australia, FHM, etc. WGN Chicago and Syndicated TV show, “The Daily Buzz” anointed him “The Woman Expert” and FOX News pronounced him “A voice for women.” CNN.com turned to Wanis for expert insights and analysis when Michael Jackson died. Over five million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish. www.patrickwanis.com

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Chasing or dating a bad boy almost always turns out bad! So why are women attracted to bad boys? Is it the thrill of the pursuit, the triumph of winning the seemingly unattainable, the female desire to tame the wild man or is it the feeling of security in the midst of a strong, confident and rebellious man?

“The answer lies in the difference in genders” says Los Angeles based Human Behavior & Relationship Expert, Dr. Patrick Wanis. “Ultimately, women are nurturers and fall in love with a man’s potential; they want him to grow and change!”

Dr. Wanis identifies and reveals the primary motivations:

*  Men fall in love with a woman the way she is, hoping she won’t change or even age

*  Women are instinctively nurturers; women fall in love with a man’s potential and try to change him; women expect a man to evolve, grow and change

*  When a woman sees a ‘bad boy,’ she thinks she can turn him into a ‘good boy’ – the desire to tame the wild

*  The boy who is unattainable or off limits also offers some women the thrill-seeking trap of ‘forbidden love’ (think Romeo & Juliet)

* The pursuit of the unattainable or challenging man sparks the Dopamine rush and reward system – anticipatory and emotional excitement that releases feel good chemicals in the body

*  Confident but rebellious men offer women a false sense of security

*  Unresolved emotional and psychological issues can also drive women to pursue bad boys, guarded and emotionally unavailable boys (e..g. low self-esteem, feelings of being unloveable; a woman who fears rejection or intimacy will pursue a man who is not truly available thus offering her an excuse when he flees; a woman who seeks security via control will pursue a man who is dependent on her)

Also read the article where Patrick Wanis PhD answers readers questions and reveals the “Scientific & psychological reasons women love bad boys”: http://patrickwanis.com/blog/scientific-psychological-reasons-women-love-bad-boys/

And watch the interview Patrick Wanis PhD gives to Australia’s The Morning TV Show:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h9lp1gZTgtQ

**** Originally from Australia, Patrick Wanis Ph.D., is a Celebrity Life-Coach, Author, Expert in Human Behavior & Relationships and creator of SRTT Therapy with a PhD in Health Psychology. Wanis has appeared on FOX News, MSNBC, Extra, Issues with Jane Velez Mitchell, TruTV’s In Session, the Montel Williams Show, Mike and Juliet, Cosmo, Rolling Stone, InTouch Weekly, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Dating on Demand, E! TV, Vh1, CNN.com, MSN.com, Date.com, Matchmaker.com, NY Daily Mail, NY Post, Vogue Australia, FHM, etc. WGN Chicago and Syndicated TV show, “The Daily Buzz” anointed him “The Woman Expert” and FOX News pronounced him “A voice for women.” CNN.com turned to Wanis for expert insights and analysis when Michael Jackson died. Over five million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish. www.patrickwanis.com

Stop apologizing for anti gay remarks

“Making people apologize for anti-gay remarks doesn’t change the way they really feel and can create more harm than good” says Los Angeles based Therapist and Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis PhD.

“Racism, bigotry, bias and prejudice cannot change by a forced apology” says Dr. Wanis. “Forcing people such as Tracy Morgan, Chris Brown, Cee Lo or others to be fake and give fraudulent apologies to save their career and popularity doesn’t change their beliefs and only encourages people to lie about their real feelings” explains Wanis. “Real change can only occur when we ask people who make offensive remarks to explain the truth behind their feelings, to explain their motivations and hatred so that those beliefs can be addressed.”

“Parents make the same mistake and teach their kids to lie about their real feelings when they say things such as ‘Johnny, now apologize to your sister.’ Johnny does, but he is not really sorry! They’re just words he uses. He is angry and resentful that he has to apologize because he doesn’t understand why and he doesn’t feel it. And now he’s taught to lie and to give fake apologies in order to be liked and accepted. The same applies to adults and to public figures: Real change comes from new understanding and new perspectives – not by being forced or intimidated into saying something someone doesn’t truly mean, feel or believe” says Wanis.

“And real apologies come from the heart and not from the desire to gain other people’s approval.”

“Forced political correctness, counterfeit language and bogus apologies only lead to more hatred and violence. When we suppress and repress our hatred and bigotry without exploring its roots, we simply create more resentment, anger, bitterness, hatred and contempt toward the very thing or people we hated in the first place. Hatred and bigotry of any kind, such as anti-Semitism cannot be eradicated by political correctness, it can only be corrected by discussion and not by silence or more lies with forced artificial or convenient apologies” says Dr. Wanis.

“Would you want your partner to say ‘I am sorry and I love you’ if he or she does not mean either one?” asks Dr. Wanis.

**** Originally from Australia, Patrick Wanis Ph.D., is a Celebrity Life-Coach, Author, Expert in Human Behavior & Relationships and creator of SRTT Therapy with a PhD in Health Psychology. Wanis has appeared on FOX News, MSNBC, Extra, Issues with Jane Velez Mitchell, TruTV’s In Session, the Montel Williams Show, Mike and Juliet, Cosmo, Rolling Stone, InTouch Weekly, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Dating on Demand, E! TV, Vh1, CNN.com, MSN.com, Date.com, Matchmaker.com, NY Daily Mail, NY Post, Vogue Australia, FHM, etc. WGN Chicago and Syndicated TV show, “The Daily Buzz” anointed him “The Woman Expert” and FOX News pronounced him “A voice for women.” CNN.com turned to Wanis for expert insights and analysis when Michael Jackson died. Over five million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish. www.patrickwanis.com

Watch: Patrick Wanis PhD on James Ray and the dangers of gurus – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wvMyoFLdQQ0

How a self-help guru brainwashed 3 people to their death

“It’s a timeless formula for brainwashing: convince people that they are lacking something and you are the only one who has the answer’ says Los Angeles based Therapist and Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis PhD.

Self-help guru James Arthur Ray was found guilty of 3 counts of negligent manslaughter after three people died in his Sweat Lodge, during his Spiritual Warrior Retreat in Arizona.

“James Ray rose to fame and fortune because of his charisma, use of psychological persuasion and the spectacular marketing of the book and movie ‘The Secret’ that featured him while also playing into people’s vulnerabilities and desires for instant gratification” says Dr. Wanis.

“James Ray sought out people who were lost, emotionally vulnerable or searching for something and promised them unimaginable rewards – including the experience of transcending death – but tragically, he wasn’t able to deliver on the latter.”

“James Ray also used two other secrets of psychological influence: 1) Authority and; 2) Scarcity. Ray built himself as an authority God-like figure and the participants and followers sought his approval and feared his rejection; Ray convinced them that his knowledge and techniques were secrets” says Dr. Wanis. “And after paying $10,000 for the experience of a lifetime, participants believed they were part of the privileged few to access those secrets and they sought Ray’s approval so many of them stayed in the extremely hot tent even as their bodies were entering alarm mode and shutting down.”

Finally, Wanis asks “Remember 1978, the Jones Town Massacre when a reverend led 909 people including children to their death? James Ray isn’t the first person to brainwash people or lead them to their death and he won’t be the last: James Ray created his reality the way others before him have – ego, greed, narcissism and lust for power and control.”

“Humans have basic needs so it’s not only the weak-minded people get drawn into a cult or get brainwashed” warns Dr. Wanis. “Our emotional needs include significance, attention, a safe, secure environment to mature and develop; an emotional connection to other people; acceptance, a connection to the wider community, and meaning & purpose. And when those needs are not being met, a charismatic man like James Ray appears claiming he is the only one who can help you – he has the secret – but his secret was not spiritual – it was deadly.”

**** Originally from Australia, Patrick Wanis Ph.D., is a Celebrity Life-Coach, Author, Expert in Human Behavior & Relationships and creator of SRTT Therapy with a PhD in Health Psychology. Wanis has appeared on FOX News, MSNBC, Extra, Issues with Jane Velez Mitchell, TruTV’s In Session, the Montel Williams Show, Mike and Juliet, Cosmo, Rolling Stone, InTouch Weekly, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Dating on Demand, E! TV, Vh1, CNN.com, MSN.com, Date.com, Matchmaker.com, NY Daily Mail, NY Post, Vogue Australia, FHM, etc. WGN Chicago and Syndicated TV show, “The Daily Buzz” anointed him “The Woman Expert” and FOX News pronounced him “A voice for women.” CNN.com turned to Wanis for expert insights and analysis when Michael Jackson died. Over five million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish. www.patrickwanis.com

Men and women view cheating differently

Is an online or social media sexual adventure really cheating?

Depends if you are a man or a woman says Los Angeles based Human Behavior Expert, Therapist Patrick Wanis PhD. “Generally, men view cheating first as a sexual act while women view cheating first as an emotional act.”

US Rep. Anthony Weiner admitted to lying and sending out lewd photos via Twitter and social media but defended himself by saying he “never met any of these women or had physical relationships at any time.”

“But he is wrong – even if Weiner didn’t meet these online women in person, most women view emotional infidelity as worse, not better, than sexual betrayal” says Dr. Wanis, author of “Get Over It – breakups, betrayals and rejection!” “Most men become much more jealous about sexual infidelity than they do about emotional infidelity – they are more threatened by a woman cheating physically than they are by her cheating emotionally.”

“Any act that takes away energy from your relationship & partner and places it and attention on someone else can be deemed as cheating and betrayal” says Wanis. “Weiner’s worst act, though, was lying and engaging in behavior that could ultimately humiliate his wife and demonstrate a deep lack of respect for her – regardless of his personal definitions of cheating or betrayal” concludes Wanis.

**** Originally from Australia, Patrick Wanis Ph.D., is a Celebrity Life-Coach, Author, Expert in Human Behavior & Relationships and creator of SRTT Therapy with a PhD in Health Psychology. Wanis has appeared on FOX News, MSNBC, Extra, Issues with Jane Velez Mitchell, TruTV’s In Session, the Montel Williams Show, Mike and Juliet, Cosmo, Rolling Stone, InTouch Weekly, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Dating on Demand, E! TV, Vh1, CNN.com, MSN.com, Date.com, Matchmaker.com, NY Daily Mail, NY Post, Vogue Australia, FHM, etc. WGN Chicago and Syndicated TV show, “The Daily Buzz” anointed him “The Woman Expert” and FOX News pronounced him “A voice for women.” CNN.com turned to Wanis for expert insights and analysis when Michael Jackson died. Over five million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish. www.patrickwanis.com

Men who marry up but cheat down – Jesse James “married up” with Sandra Bullock but cheated down with a tattoo model

“Why do powerful men cheat with powerless women?  To compensate for a lack of power in their romantic relationships”, says Los Angeles based Human Behavior Expert, Therapist and author of “Get Over It – breakups, betrayals and rejection!”, Patrick Wanis PhD.

“Power in the boardroom is meaningless to men – their real power comes from their relationship with their woman. Men emasculate themselves by marrying powerful sucessful women then choose to cheat with powerless, submissive women”, says Dr. Wanis.  “This is the new phenomenon of men marrying up but cheating down.”

“Rock stars and athletes choose women like food off a buffet, but when a highly successful man is coupled with an equally successful woman and he possibly feels powerless in his personal life, overshadowed or even ignored in his own relationship, he then turns to women whom he can control and lord it over:

• Jesse James cheated on famous actress Sandra Bullock with a tattoo model
• Arnold Schwarzenegger with his housekeeper
• Charlie Sheen used prostitutes
• Kobe Bryant cheated with a hotel employee in Colorado
• President Bill Clinton with an intern
• IMF chief Dominique Strauss-Kahn (married to a famous TV host and heiress) allegedly tried to rape a hotel maid
• Robert Moffat Senior VP of IBM cheated with a hedge fund analyst
• Christopher Lee, a congressman from New York tried to cheat on his wife by advertising himself on a Craigslist dating ad

“Yes, Power leads to cheating because it can lead to delusions of invincibility, entitlement and the male ego-drive to win, conquer and dominate but, when an externally powerful man cheats with a submissive woman, one whom he can control, he is trying to feel the power and masculinity that he lacks in his relationship with his often very powerful or famous wife. Men unconsciously seek the approval and validation of their wife and without it they look for another woman to compensate.” says Dr. Wanis.

“This, in no way justifies cheating nor does it lay blame on the wife, but the women engaging in the betrayal are giving into the greatest aphrodisiac of all – the power that these men offer” concludes Wanis.

**** Originally from Australia, Patrick Wanis Ph.D., is a Celebrity Life-Coach, Author, Expert in Human Behavior & Relationships and creator of SRTT Therapy with a PhD in Health Psychology. Wanis has appeared on FOX News, MSNBC, Extra, Issues with Jane Velez Mitchell, TruTV’s In Session, the Montel Williams Show, Mike and Juliet, Cosmo, Rolling Stone, InTouch Weekly, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Dating on Demand, E! TV, Vh1, CNN.com, MSN.com, Date.com, Matchmaker.com, NY Daily Mail, NY Post, Vogue Australia, FHM, etc. WGN Chicago and Syndicated TV show, “The Daily Buzz” anointed him “The Woman Expert” and FOX News pronounced him “A voice for women.” CNN.com turned to Wanis for expert insights and analysis when Michael Jackson died. Over five million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish. www.patrickwanis.com

Schwarzenegger – Why powerful men cheat

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“For men, cheating is almost always about power and power corrupts! Men in power change and believe they are invincible -  the rules and the law no longer apply to them , often hypnotized into believing that they won’t get caught”, says Los Angeles based Human Behavior Expert, Therapist and author of “Get Over It – breakups, betrayals and rejection!”, Patrick Wanis PhD.

“Former Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger, Tiger Woods, John Edwards, Governor Mark Sanford, Governor Spitzer, Bill Clinton, Bill Murray and now the head of the IMF? There’s a dangerous link between power, infidelity and sex addictions. Men in power can be sensation seekers who love to take risks but they also have greater access and opportunities to cheat than the average man does. Even simple situations of power over another person can lead to cheating as exemplified by Arnold Schwarzenegger who now admits to secretly fathering a child with a household staffer” says Dr. Wanis.

“Powerful men face greater temptation because they have power, control and command over other people. Power leads to cheating because it can lead to delusions of invincibility, entitlement and the male ego-drive to win, conquer and dominate” says Wanis.

“The combination of access, temptation, delusions of invincibility & entitlement and the control over others also creates the ultimate test of morals and values as exemplified by priests who have molested boys in their care. Often, paradoxically, many of the cheaters are overly self-righteous men who end up doing the very things they were preaching against such as Elliot Spitzer.” Dr. Wanis says “Human behavior hasn’t changed in over 100 years – Lord Acton said in 1887, ‘All power tends to corrupt and absolute power corrupts absolutely.’”

“And as men in power age, they tend to choose easier victims as way to overcome their waning power, such as the head of the IMF charged with raping a hotel maid. Cheating by men is best summed up by Bill Clinton who said:  “I did something for the worst possible reason-just because I could”; Tiger Woods admitted that he, too, was a victim of fame, power and its entitlement. Yes, power still corrupts” concludes Wanis.

**** Originally from Australia, Patrick Wanis Ph.D., is a Celebrity Life-Coach, Author, Expert in Human Behavior & Relationships and creator of SRTT Therapy with a PhD in Health Psychology. Wanis has appeared on FOX News, MSNBC, Extra, TruTV’s In Session, the Montel Williams Show, Mike and Juliet, Cosmo, Rolling Stone, InTouch Weekly, Women’s Health, Dating on Demand, E! TV, Vh1, CNN.com, MSN.com, Date.com, Matchmaker.com, NY Daily Mail, NY Post, Vogue Australia, FHM, etc. WGN Chicago and Syndicated TV show, “The Daily Buzz” anointed him “The Woman Expert” and FOX News pronounced him “A voice for women.” CNN.com turned to Wanis for expert insights and analysis when Michael Jackson died. Over five million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish. www.patrickwanis.com