In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to discuss the human craving for connection, its significance, how it impacts our happiness & success in life, and reveal 6 tips to enhancing and engaging connection.
First a quick update:
**** Gurus, spiritual healers and the big lie about curing cancer and terminal illness – Hulda Clark claimed to be able to cure cancer but she died from complications from cancer. Michael Ireland, an alternative therapist and ‘psychic healer’, claimed he could perform ‘psychic surgery’ but was jailed after admitting five counts of sexual assault against his patient and he also admitted a total of 25 offences against eight women, including indecent assault and sexual activity with a child. Read the interview I gave about various gurus and self-professed healers who sell extraordinary lies about being able to cure cancer and other diseases: http://patrickwanis.com/blog/gurus-spiritual-healers-big-lie-curing-cancer-terminal-illness/
Now, let’s talk about the human craving for connection, its significance, how it impacts our happiness & success in life, and reveal 6 tips to enhancing and engaging connection.
Connection can be defined as the relationship where two people are linked or associated to each other; authentic connection can be defined as the ability to feel and express emotions, thoughts, ideas to each other.
American psychologist, Abraham Maslow, became renowned for his “Hierarchy of needs” in which he listed connection as one of those key human needs.
I group connection with “Love & connection” as one of the key six human emotional needs.
But is connection truly that important or critical?
That question is best answered with another question: What is the most extreme form of punishment within the prison system?
Solitary confinement is used to isolate a prisoner from all human contact except for limited supervision and contact with prison staff.
It is argued that solitary confinement is used to modify behavior (i.e. conform to regulations), to punish, rehabilitate or for protective custody (to protect the prisoner from other prisoners) or for suicide watch.
And what are the effects of solitary confinement.
Harvard Medical School psychiatrist Stuart Grassian and Craig Haney, a professor of psychology at the University of California, separately studied solitary confinement and both concluded that it creates various devastating mental issues:
- Increased sensitivity to stimuli, hallucinations, and other changes in perception
- Cognitive problems – memory loss, difficulty thinking, and impulsiveness
- Anxiety, headaches, chronic tiredness, trouble sleeping, impending nervous breakdown, perspiring hands, heart palpitations, loss of appetite, trembling hands and nightmares, suicidal thoughts, perceptual distortions, chronic depression, emotional flatness, violent fantasies
Above all, solitary confinement worsens a prisoner’s pre-existing mental health problems while causing new mental illnesses in otherwise healthy people.
Simply put, a lack of human contact and a lack of connection with other human beings devastate one’s psyche and soul.
We all need connection with other humans for happiness, and thus, we all crave connection.