In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to discuss women’s struggle to please.
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Now, let’s talk about women’s struggle to please.
From early childhood on, we all naturally succumb to the pressure and expectation to please others.
Of course, it begins with the desire to please our parents (or caregivers.) We seek to please them and get their approval because we directly relate the seal of approval and a sense of acceptance with physical safety, love and affection. In other words, for a child, the perception and interpretation of the significance of approval becomes synonymous first with physical survival.
Eventually, our desire to please others (including peers and strangers) and seek their approval and acceptance becomes more than a habit – it becomes part of our programming. As adults, we equate other people’s approval, acceptance and opinion of us with our self-worth. We allow others to decide our value based purely on their ever-changing judgment of us.
We battle and struggle to maintain the image and be the person that others close to us as well as society in general expect of us.
It is not that we lose our individuality as much as we lose our self-worth when we constantly keep measuring ourselves against what everyone else wants us to be, do or have.