In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal the link between happiness and wholehearted living.
First a quick update:
- Appreciation & Significance – Yes, there is a link between appreciating people and feeling significant and becoming significant. Praising and expressing appreciation for people makes you a leader and attracts people to you. http://patrickwanis.com/blog/expressing-appreciation-leads-to-power-significance/
- Follow me on Twitter– You can now choose to follow me and receive a few words of wisdom on Twitter: @Behavior_Expert https://twitter.com/Behavior_Expert
- Spirituality Vs Religion – What is the difference between spirituality and religion? Watch my appearance and the debate on the Catholic Channel: https://youtu.be/-WuzGlNJwOw
Now, let’s talk about the link between happiness and wholehearted living.
What does it mean to be wholehearted?
According to research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work, Brene Brown, wholehearted living refers to having a strong sense of love and belonging, and believing that you are worthy of love and belonging.
Brown argues that you can only experience love and belonging by being vulnerable, by allowing your heart to open and by being willing to experience all of the emotions, including disappointment and even rejection.
The paradox is that by being vulnerable by choosing to be wholehearted you can experience happiness and joy!
In her book “Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead”, Brene Brown presents “10 Guideposts for Wholehearted Living.”
Here are her ten guideposts followed by my own interpretations and suggested strategies & solutions for each guidepost
1. Cultivate Authenticity – Let go of what people think
What do you believe people think about you? Do you constantly try to live up to their image of you? Perhaps they expect you to be the clown, the entertainer or the martyr; it doesn’t matter what they think of you, it matters if you are concerned more who you are expressing and demonstrating to them. Are you expressing your real self? Are you living according to your beliefs or are you hiding, changing or denying your beliefs to get their approval?
Solution: Stop doing whatever it takes just to fit in. Be willing to be courageous and face rejection – not everyone will like, approve or agree with you. Your authentic friends will be authentic with you and will accept you even if you both disagree. If you and your friend have different values, then be willing to have integrity and maintain your values, even if it means letting go of the friendship.