In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal the link between your subconscious beliefs about your level of worthiness & deservedness and your reality.
First a quick update:
**** Compassion for addicts? – In a new series of video interviews that chronicle leaders and developments in the addiction recovery world presented by Milestones Ranch Malibu Treatment Center, I interview Jason Thomas, Admissions Coordinator for Milestones Ranch Malibu Treatment Center about the unique ways that Milestones helped him to achieve sobriety and become a better father. Jason had been through three other treatment centers before Milestones and says that Milestones’ warm, soft approach of kindness and genuineness helped him to face the truth about himself that he previously wasn’t willing to see. Jason also reveals how he found the door to freedom when he finally felt that he no longer had to hide from anyone and especially not from himself. http://youtu.be/2CQdQbx4Yfw
**** Lady Gaga and self-acceptance – She promotes self love when she sings “There’s nothing wrong with loving who you are” and “I’m beautiful in my way ’cause God makes no mistakes” but does Lady Gaga really accept herself and her body or does she fear rejection and is giving into the public’s expectations of her? Read my comments in the Fox News article: http://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/2012/04/16/experts-call-lady-gaga-controversial-diet-tweets-hypocritical-and-cary/
Now, let’s talk about your worthiness; how much are you worth? How much do you deserve?
How much do you charge for your services? How much do you think you deserve to be paid or to receive? Why do some people feel happy and comfortable to charge high fees while others feel guilty charging or receiving anything at all?
Here is an excerpt from my book, “Smash your hidden beliefs – make more money now”:
Why do you deserve money? What makes you so special that you deserve money?
How did you feel and respond when you read the above two questions?
Re-read them now: Why do you deserve money? What makes you so special that you deserve money?
What do you believe it takes to make money, to hold onto money, to enjoy money? What makes you worthy of money and how much are you worth?
Let’s find out.
Let’s begin by writing out the answer to the question: Why do you deserve money?
Please don’t write this from your head. It’s critical to the success of the exercise to get into your feelings, your emotions. Thus, close your eyes and just relax and ask yourself, “Why do I deserve money?”
Write down whatever answer that comes to your mind. “Why do I deserve money?” If your first answer is “Because I work hard” then I can almost guarantee that you saw your parents work hard to get money, and so do you know what’s going to happen to your world and reality? You’re going to be working really hard to make money. But this is how we uncover the beliefs. We have to start at this point and answer fully from the subconscious mind: “Why do I deserve money? Your answers will reveal what you feel about yourself, your sense of self-worth and value.
If you have low self-esteem, low self-value then that is what you will attract into your life: low value results, little money, crappy feelings.
Your outer world will reflect what you believe you are worth.
Why don’t you deserve money? This question is just as important as why you do deserve money, and no, it’s not a negative question.
Allow me to explain: By asking the question why don’t you deserve money, we force the subconscious mind to reveal what you feel and believe about your level of worthiness and deservedness regarding money. If you don’t feel or believe that you deserve money, then your results will be exactly that – you won’t get much money because you don’t feel you deserve it and you will be continually struggling and frustrated and broke or just never able to reach your conscious goals. When you change your beliefs from “I don’t deserve money” to “I do deserve money” you will also change your results.
There can be many reasons why you feel you don’t deserve money: You might feel guilty for something you did ten years ago; You might feel bad about something you did or didn’t do; You might feel resentful or bitter; You might be scared of something; you might be punishing yourself or even protecting yourself from further pain or judgment.
The exercise I would like you to do is to answer:
“Why don’t I deserve money? Why don’t I deserve lots of money? Why aren’t I worth more money?”
When doing any of these exercises, be aware of the difference between your conscious mind and your subconscious mind. In other words, keep asking yourself “What do I feel?” For example, if I were to ask you to write out what you want now, you would most likely write something similar to: “I want a million dollars a year…I want a mansion in front of the ocean, I want this and I want that, etc.” And if I were to ask you to write what you believe you deserve, you might write out something similar to: “I believe I deserve a million dollars a year…I believe I deserve ten million dollars a year… I believe I deserve a mansion in front of the ocean, etc.” Now that’s okay and that’s nice, but is that what you really believe? The truth will only be revealed when you add feeling and get into the emotion. In other words: What do you feel you deserve?
If you want to know what you actually feel you deserve right now, look at your life. Just look around you. How much money are you making? How hard are you working? What’s happening in your life? What do you experience to get money? How long does your money last? How often do unexpected things happen that suddenly make your money disappear?
I know this might be tough to read and swallow, but whatever is in your life right now, is simply a reflection of what you truly deeply want. Not what your conscious mind wants, but what your subconscious mind believes you deserve. Your subconscious mind leads you to that which you believe you deserve.
Let me explain that.
The process of manifestation, the way that we create things is really simple. Our thoughts and our feelings combine for us to take action, which creates their results.
Now, some people say that the thought comes first then the feeling, and then the feeling and the thought combine to create and take action, which then leads to results. But sometimes it’s the feeling. As a child, you might have just felt scared. Now, there might be thought that says, “It’s not safe to be alone, or it’s not safe to trust people, or I can’t give my money to people, or people will take my money, or people will steal my money”, but what is the feeling that you had? So some people fear the money, maybe because of added responsibility or maybe because there’s pain associated with money.
Thus the thought will also lead to a feeling. If you think to yourself, “I’m stupid and worthless”, then you will feel worthless. You’ll feel helpless, hopeless, or powerless, or a whole series of negative emotions, and then you will opt to take no action, or you’ll sabotage and push away whatever good comes to you.
Thus, whenever you’re thinking and feeling something good, you’re going to bring it to you. But also, when you’re thinking and feeling something bad, you’re also going to bring that to you. Have you noticed the people who always seem to have accidents? Maybe you just think that person is always clumsy or they’re always having accidents. What’s wrong with them? That’s what they focus on and their beliefs are being lived out. Our beliefs become like prophecies that come to pass.
- from my book, “Smash your hidden beliefs – make more money now”
And if you would like to change your subconscious beliefs, use my audio program “Be Happy, Rich and Wealthy.” Click here: http://patrickwanis.com/HappyRichWealthy.asp
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I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”
Patrick Wanis Ph.D.
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & SRTT Therapist